We often try in vain to “help” our kids by…
- Being rational
- “Talking some sense into them”
But once they feel “threatened”, it’s not getting through. It’s so easy for us, as adults, to see what “needs to be done”. We can see so clearly that if they just do x, y and z, that they would make things so much easier on themselves. We just don’t understand why they don’t take these simple actions and it’s infuriating.
So what works?
Believe it or not, one of the BIGGEST keys to helping kids change is empowering growth in millimeters. It’s the small baby steps that work. Many tiny steps add together to create big change, and it requires a ton of time, effort and patience. A TON. Way more than you think it should!
There are two things my father likes to say that are apropos.
- “A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.” and…
- “How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.”
Now go help your child move a millimeter, because it’s all that matters.