Is my middle or high schooler in “The Dip”?
Look for these 4 things to know:
- 6-8 weeks into the semester parents notice that things are falling apart.
- A mountain of missing work, zeroes, incompletes and late work emerges.
- Grades take a nosedive.
- Your child procrastinates & resists taking action that would get results, and you’re at your wit’s end.
What do parents need to know if they want to help?
- This will not fix itself.
- Lecturing, nagging, yelling, long discussions, logic and reason won’t fix it.
- Punishments won’t fix it.
- Using rewards to motivate your child won’t fix it.
Why don’t these work?
Because they are based on the WRONG assumptions. The misconceptions sound like this, “You need to try harder. I know you can do it, I’ve seen you do it. You’re being lazy. You just need to motivate yourself. You need to decide it’s important and apply yourself more. You need to be more disciplined. You just don’t care enough about school.”
IT’S NOT ABOUT TRYING HARDER.
IT’S ABOUT EXECUTIVE FUNCTION.
Then what works Seth?
- First you have to get real buy-in from your child.
- Next, we must address Executive Function challenges properly:
- These kids need the RIGHT executive function skills.
- These kids need the RIGHT systems.
- These kids need the RIGHT mindsets that help them overcome their own resistance and avoidance.
- These kids need the RIGHT habits and routines.
- Overhaul first
How do we know if we are ready?
- You are involved parents who are willing and able to take time and energy with your child for this intensive and productive day dedicated to turning it around.
- Your child has bought into the idea and wants to do this with you (of course there will be resistance, but they have to be in a place where they have some desire to work on this)
- You are parents who are able to be patient, compassionate, understanding during this process because too much pressure will not work.
- Open-minded and are willing to accept that they misunderstand EF.
- Parents are willing and able to put forth extraordinary effort and time as a team.
About The DIP Day Workshop
- What: An intensive daylong workshop taking the actions necessary to get out of the dip and finish the semester more successfully.
- When: Saturday, March 7th, block out your entire day
- Where: I host it online via Zoom webinar.
- Who: The child and parents attend together.
How does it work?
- Sign up with the link below.
- I email you the special links so you can join us live on March 7th.
- Block out the entire day on your calendar.
- Show up online and I will walk you step by step through the entire process, WHILE positively addressing the resistance your child will experience throughout this entire process.
- By the end of this day, you will all be pretty tired, but this is good because you will have taken the actions to get out of The DIP and you will have built a better relationship with your child and you will have tools to address these problems in the future.
If you and your child are willing to dedicate an entire day to working on this problem, you will see results!
What is the schedule like?
- Turn off electronics
- An hour before we start, you and your child eat a good breakfast together and do NOT talk about school or anything stressful. Take this time to CONNECT and try to enjoy spending quality with each other. Use the Breakfast PDF if you want for conversation starters that build connection and relationship. Paretns share your intention and gratitude homework.
- 10:00 am MST, Zoom Session 1/3 – Assessment: First we need to get crystal clear on what’s working and what’s not, so I’ll take you through The DIP assessment which will give us a complete and detailed picture of your specific situation.
- 11:00 am MST – Go out to the store to get any materials you need after the assessment. Eat lunch together, connect, use the Lunch Conversation PDF and be ready for session 2.
- 1:00 pm MST Zoom Session 2/3 Massive Action: Now we will begin plowing through several of the actions we need to take
- 2:00 pm MST Action Break: Finish taking action until everythign is done, then take a break, take a walk together, heart to heart, move.
- 3:00 pm Zoom Session 3/3
- 4:00 pm Action, finish up, teh final push.
- After finishing, fantastic dinner NOT talking about school unless your child wants to
- 1 week later; Watch or listen to the replays because you will hear nuances you completely missed the first time and it will reinforce everything I taught you so you can be certain you have everything in place.
- 1 month after:
Print the workbook
How much does it cost and how do we get started?
$197 includes
- the daylong transformative experience where I tell you exactly what actions to take.
- the recordings.
- workbook to keep you on track.
Click right here to open the cart where you enter your payment information.
I hope you’ll join us,
Seth
Who is this NOT for?
You have to be honest with yourself. If your child does not have any real buy-in and is not ready to be realistic about their challenges, or if there is a lot of family conflict, tension, avoidance, emotional disconnect, this will not work for you. In fact, it may make your relationship worse to force them if they are not ready. At this point, you probably have other foundational issues to address before your child is ready to accept executive function help.
Is there a guarantee?
If this workshop is not awesome and exactly what I promised above, I’ll refund you 100%, no games.