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Students, many people get depressed, but there is a lot of misunderstanding, and unfortunately, many people do not have good strategies for working through depression. In this video, I tell you my story and give you real strategies that can help.
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So recently one of my students asked me if I get depressed in the answer to that is yes, I get depressed Dog Swim at 2 in a minute. What’s up? My name is. Com an executive function coach in Colorado and I help struggling students navigate this thing called school so that they can have a great life. And as far as depression is concerned there are forms of depression which are chronic which are ongoing which are debilitating which really interfere with someone’s life. They are. The depression that happened very naturally when something tragic or sad happens in our life, for example the death of someone who’s close to us or you know, if we moved to a new city or you stayed in the grief of of the changing nature of the relationships with our friends from where we’re moving from I’m there’s all sorts of types. Situations that will cause, you know, very normal depression or sadness or. Of time where you experience at and then there is sort of this periodic thing where it can just happen to order more randomly. So what happens to me nowadays not have gone through different phases of my life. I’ve gone through phases where I’ve sort of chronically depressed and I was depressed just all the time and I’ve gone through phases obviously like everybody where was situational where when somebody passed away or I move to a new city or something there is, you know, little waves or big waves leave enough of this thing called depression and then there has been what I have now. What I experienced now is probably anywhere from two to four days a month. I have a day where i’m just off. I’m just depressed. I’m just I feel For me, it feels very flat. Very empty. Very just nothing seems to be going right everything seems to be wrong and it feels heavy and uncomfortable and yucky and exhausting and I just have no motivation no energy to do anything. So that’s kind of how mine is now us on those days II practice being reflective or introspective or metacognitive getting to know myself being stopped where I practice mindfulness and being conscious of what’s going on with what’s called your subconscious, which is the thoughts that go on sort of silently that can often drive us and often they can drive us it when it’s subconscious that can drive us in ways that we don’t want you know, but what happens to me as soon as I am I more reflective person since I’m Willing to look inside me. And since I’m willing to deal with my own stuff, everybody has. Your parents have stopped your grandparents up stuff your aunts and uncles have stuff your cousin’s up stuff. Your teachers have stuff Your Heroes your favorite people that you admire in the whole world have stuff. We’ve all got Junk but I I’m someone who deals with my junk. I work on my junk. I work on myself at work on being a better person. We’ve all got stuff. We’ve all got you. No skeletons in the closet. We’ve all got some junk that has to be cleared out in front of way and worked on. So for me went because of that reflectiveness that I work on in practice and I’ve done it for many many years because of that when every two to four days a month, it does hit me and I wake up in the morning. I’m just like, oh it’s one of those days. Sometimes I slog through it and I have something really important that has to get done and I’m able to do it. I may not be my best making videos on a day like that will never happen. I cannot make videos on a day when I’m like that but other stuff I can do I can work with people live when I’ve made commitments to people I can follow through with my appointments on those days stuff like that. You know, why am I I might just want to get out of the house. And imma just go to the grocery store to get something just to get out of house or something, but I know that on those days sometimes I just need to do what’s called self-compassion or self-care and that’s where I can say to myself. Okay, Seth, you’re human. You’re not perfect. You’re having an off-day. Just chill. It’s okay, if you’re not productive, it’s okay. If you don’t get done the things that you think you’re supposed to get done the world’s not going to stop because You didn’t follow through with what your plan was, you know, and I can be okay with me and be like, you know, what just chill. It’s okay to just have no energy for a day and whatever now I know that some of you watching this may have worse experiences than that. You may be someone who has a chronically all the time or you may be someone who hardly ever has it or maybe it’s just the situation that knock you off center or you know the difficulties in life either way. Well, yes, I do get it. I used to have it a lot if you have a lot we don’t have to stay in that state but it’s hard work. It’s not just taking medication and all of them things are magically done with the magic belt not how life Works no matter who you are. We got to work on ourselves. We got to look deep. We got to be have the courage to look within and it can be scary to look within I know that I used to be afraid that if I looked inside I might really find out that the truth is that I really am a worthless lazy failure that doesn’t deserve anyting and kept her doing the work on myself. I found out that is not true at all actually have a lot to offer people. So doing the work on yourself will help you wear. If you’re having a chronically you can minimize that you can start over coming at you can start having more unlikely. Perfect, but you can have more good days. You’re good. The good times, you know during the day where you have some peace of mind and you’re not feeling depressed and get longer and longer and longer and you can string more days together that are good day. You know in that that’s it’s hard work, but it’s doable your you know, if you’re working with this, you’re not the only one who’s gone through this people all over many many many many many people, you know are going through this it is set up for a lot of us. It’s part of life and it’s okay in the second. We stop fighting it and say you know what? Okay, so I don’t feel great right now. I’m what am I going to do about it? How am I going to work myself out of it? How am I going to live in the solution rather than live in the problem. There’s a saying that says don’t judge your insides by other people’s outside. Then we live in this Instagram world where everybody acts like they got it together, but if you have been following any instagrammers or YouTubers are any of the any any of those people that have like mass of channels what you’ll notice is most of them get to a point or van life stuff or whatever. Them get to a point where they’re going to do some videos about the real size the real reality of their life and they’re going to come clean with people and say yeah, I struggle with this I struggle with that. It’s not all perfect. It’s not all you know looks so awesome on Instagram and everything everything looks so up but it’s not it says they’re just normal people. That’s all any of us are any of us nobody nobody that, you know, not a single person that you know is beyond human. Nobody’s above human. We’re all just having a human experience. So the answer is yes, I do get depressed the way it works for me is it’s it like I said about two to four days a month. I have tools to work with it to let it do its thing and to let it pass at the eye doesn’t get a grip on me anymore. I’m not afraid of it anymore. It doesn’t hold me back anymore to hold me back that day, but it doesn’t get me into a downward spiral anymore doesn’t control me anymore or anything like that. It’s something that I’ve worked hard on in that work has paid off and on the bright side. Let’s say that I have a month. I have two days where with where I’m just depressed and I’m just not myself on the bright side. I have you no 28 days or so where I’m pretty good. I’ve got a pretty good life. You know, I’m getting deep sleep from eating decent food. I’m getting decent exercise. I have good people in my life. I do work that I like I’ve time for self-care have time to be socialite. So, you know I have I’m pretty good life. So 28 days out of the month. You know, I I I got a pretty good and I’m very grateful for that and I’ve done a lot of work on practicing gratitude and focusing on those things. So anyhow, that is my reality as far as the depression stuff in my life is concerned and how it shows up. Either way. I hope that you have a fantastic day. Filled with gratitude with some good people in your life with some good exercise and good food some good rest some good self-care some positivity and that’s about it. I will see you in the next one.