Ok. I have given it everything and i have nothing I can do. My 100% just isn’t good enough to pass. It is too late to do anything. There goes that trip. I’m done.
- It’s the end of the year.
- Missing and late assignments have piled up.
- Grades have plummeted.
- Overwhelm is in full force.
- Kids don’t even know where to begin because there are so many details to deal with.
- They avoid.
- Spring fever in full force too, so motivation is even lower because of this.
- Parents try every strategy they have: everything from pushing too hard to the opposite end of the spectrum and letting go completely.
- The last day of school comes in the blink of an eye.
- Get clarity on what needs to be done. How? 2 main ways: 1. Print the detailed view of the grades from each class to see the breakdown. 2. Email teachers to get clarity (see below).
- Have an emotionally calm conversation with the student to strategize chunk by chunk.
- Help them get started. SO MUCH OF THIS IS ABOUT STARTING. Help them get momentum over and over and over.
- Stay closely connected with the student to monitor progress, encourage them, help them chip away at it. This is not a quick fix or a one time conversation. It’s a few weeks of close support. (Yes, of course they are going to be resistant, but keep trying).
- Repeat steps every couple days and do not “trust” them when they say, “ok, I’ve got it, now leave me alone.” It’s not that they are “lying” to you, they simply do not have enough of the executive function skills necessary to turn it around independently yet. So stay on them, ask how you can help, don’t give up.
Hi Ms. X,Seth Perler here. I’ve been Josh’s Executive Function coach for the past couple years.He’s struggling to pull it together in some classes right now, so I’m sending a quick email to get clarity so I can help him through the overwhelm.Looking to find out:
- How is Josh doing?
- What should he prioritize as far as makeup work is concerned?
- What big paper, exam or project is upcoming? (and is there a rubric, study guide, link, etc. for it?)Feel free to shoot me a super short email with key details.Thanks for your time,Seth