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Students, ANXIETY is a common problem nowadays and it’s particularly tricky to overcome. It takes time, persistence, and tools. We do NOT need to be ruled by anxiety. This video dives deep into a specific strategy that can be a giant part of the solution.
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I think college students. What’s up? Have a lot of students who struggle with anxiety and anxiety. It can be really debilitating thing. It can be an invisible thing that you students are experiencing that nobody knows about it’s a very misunderstood thing lot of people don’t even know that they’re having anxiety. They don’t know what to call it. They just think life feels that way. It feels very stressful very overwhelming very anxious. So I want to talk about one little aspect of anxiety if you think you have anxiety or you know, you have anxiety and you are a student. I want to tell you a little bit about what you can do about that. There are many things you can do about it, but I want to break down this one concept for you. My name is a Perler. I’m executive function coach in Colorado and help struggling students navigate this thing called education so you can have a great life so that you can get done the things that you need to get done so that you can really achieve your goals and dreams the things that really matter to And anxiety as a sad can really interfere with your life. It can really be a very painful experience. That doesn’t just go away like that. It’s some but it is something that we can work within the reason that it is something that you can work with his because your nervous system if you feel anxiety, whether it’s every single day some of you feel it all day everyday you wake up anxious to go to bed anxious. It’s just like sort of a low-level level anxiety and then you have spikes work. It’s horrible sometimes and some of you just have it occasionally you might have it a couple times a week a couple times a month a couple times a day, but it’s not it’s not all the time. So there’s the whole gamut and anxiety can be good can be good because it can be a signal to you that something is wrong and you need to look at something in your environment or in your life or in your thoughts or whatever. But either way I want to give you the stool today that can help you with anxiety. I want to give you one way. Look at it that will be very helpful that you can apply to any situation whether you’re anxious about test with your anxious about social situations whether anxious about losing something that matters to you whether you’re anxious about not getting something that’s important to you whether you’re anxious about that. You feel like you’re not good enough for something is wrong with you or something like that these things IDs this pressure this horrible feeling here’s the thing that I’m going to break down food. anxiety always always has to do with one question one question if you can understand what I’m about to tell you you can use this to help look at things that are making you anxious and you can Journal about it or talk to your counselor about every therapist or friends or you can start to break it down. So it doesn’t have such a grip on you. Okay, you can get some freedom from anxiety anxiety always has to do with one question in that question is what if always what is this bad thing happens? What if these people hate me? What is that person hates me? What if I fail? What if I succeed what if they start expecting something of me? Because I succeed what if I somewhat 60, but it’s not good enough. What if I’m not good enough. What if I’m worthless what if nobody cares about me? What if I can’t make anything out of my life? What if I don’t do well on this assignment? What if I forget to do what if the teacher embarrasses me in front of people what if that kid embarrasses me in front of people. What if I lose it if I lose this assignment? What if I get a c what if I get an A minus? what if what if what if I sometimes it can be a good what if You’re walking down the street in your neighborhood and some crazed dog comes running at you. Like it wants to attack you your what if in that anxious moment should be what if that thing gets catches up with me and bites me. And that anxiety will go straight into your body. Your brain notices the story that there’s possibly threatening dog. It sends a message to your middle of a small part of the brain is the amygdala means almond the amygdala in your brain is about the size of an element. There are two of them. The brain sends a signal to the amygdala the amygdala sends a signal to your adrenals your adrenal glands on top of your kidneys send adrenaline to your heart your heart sends adrenaline to your muscular system so that you are ready to fight flight or freeze so that you can protect yourself in that dog. In an instant that happens. So that what if it’s very good what if this dog catches up with me that would be bad. So I’m going to get my body prepared for that. My body knows I’m not say if I’m being threatened. I may possibly be threatened. I’m going to prepare for that with my pleasure, please. That’s great. That’s a what if that you want to operate properly you want to feel anxiety in that moment. You want to be prepared to do whatever you need to do to protect yourself to stay safe. That’s good. That’s a good what if but when we are about to take a test that we studied pretty hard for and we are in our mind going what if I fail. What if I don’t get everything right? What if what if the teacher thinks I’m cheating even though I never cheat what you know, and you think all these what if thoughts would I call it is looping. We Loop these what ifs May Loop me cause you to be anxious that anxiety that it’s still sending a message to the amygdala that you are not safe even though it’s just a test. It’s still sending a message and your body is preparing. And guess what when that message goes there in your body is preparing for that. How well do you think the parts of your brain that help you succeed on the test that help you show what you’ve learned in your setting how well do you think those parts of your brain work? Not very well because your body is not is now no longer in that sort of brainwave mode that allows you to access those things. So your stress in the moment is in your anxiety. I should keep using that word your anxiety in the moment is going to not Be helping you in that sort of a moment. So I’m going to wrap this video up like this anything that you want to explore that you have anxiety about and it’s an anxiety that you feel like is not useful to you that’s holding you back that is blocking you from having the type of life that you want that interfering with your freedom in your finding your peace of mind any of those sorts of anxieties that you are experiencing pull out a journal. And look at what are the what if questions that your brain is subconsciously going to what are those what if questions what is this? What is this bad thing happens? What if that bad thing happens? What is this? Good thing doesn’t happen. What if that good thing doesn’t what are the wettest really Journal about explored and then really question do I want to keep having this story? And then finally what you want to do in this is the key you want to start practicing the opposite what if you want to start practicing the opposite what if So if it’s what if I fail this test, you’re going to start seeing yourself. What if I what if I get 105% get extra credit? What if I get a B+ and it’s actually okay. What if I do fail at but I can retake it what if I do fail at but I tell the teacher I was super anxious and I actually studied in the teacher says I will I’ll let you retake it and if you need to do it verbally or something we can have an alternate way for you to do it. What if those kids don’t hate me? What if they actually like me? What if I actually become best friends with them and make one of them one of my lifelong friend for the rest of my life there one of the coolest people ever. What if they’re really not as judgmental as I’m perceiving them to be? What if I don’t like them? What if I don’t want them in my life? What if I find out that they’re not somebody who represents the type of integrity and dignity that I want people in my life to have. What if it doesn’t matter? What if I didn’t have the same Thai tea? So the point is is there’s no like set formula to this but the anxiety always has to do with a what if question him. What if this Dad thing happen and you want to get in the practice of of of wiring your brain to start saying what if he’s good things happen. What is this? Good thing happens? What if this good thing happens what this good thing happens your biggest barrier to that is your yourself. You’re Your Own Worst Enemy with this of me to we all are so your biggest barrier to this is that you’re going to stay to yourself. That wouldn’t work for me. That’s another what if what if I’m Different? What if I’m special on this stuff doesn’t work for me. You know, you you’re Your Own Worst Enemy. The reason that you’re going to think this isn’t going to work for you is because it’s the resistance we we we don’t practice a new way of thinking means that we have to start taking responsibility. We can’t stay as a victim of our own thoughts and and of our own catastrophizing of things, So we are going to have resistance. We’re going to be like well sat II can’t change my thinking because but you know, but we are all human we can all do this. We all have these amazing plastic neuroplasticity plastic brains that can change and we can start having two different. What s. I really hope that if you are experiencing anxiety, whether it’s on a regular basis or it’s just once in awhile, I really hope that you use looking at the what-if to help you have more. Peace more freedom more fun in your life. My name is up for give this a thumbs up, like it. Subscribe whatevs. Have a great day and I’ll see you soon.