How Adults can help HSPs (Highly Sensitive People and students)
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Parents and Teachers, when we have a good grasp on the needs of Highly Sensitive Students, we can be more helpful to them. This video explores the issue so you can feel more empowered.
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Video transcript:
Teachers in this video. I want to talk about hsps or highly sensitive people highly sensitive kids particularly obviously and how we need to really be very mindful of the sensitivity of our kids as we are going through this time. I’m sure if you’re watching this you probably already are very sensitive, but I think that one of the things that I’ve noticed through I many many years of working with kids is that as adults we we can tend to take for granted how difficult or challenging sensitive things were when we were kids we can forget how hard certain things were as kids. We can forget how if we did something wrong or felt shamed by a parent or teacher in a tall dark scared by a bully or felt we can or or even being a teenager and and having a crush on someone or someone having crush on this week. We can forget or or somebody making fun of us. We can forget how sensitive in deeply those things impacted us as children as young people and for hsps for highly sensitive people for a lot of gifted and talented kids who tend to be very sensitive for human beings who are highly sensitive, but I’m specifically talking about kids whether your child is 5 10 15 or 20 years old for highly sensitive people imagine that their experience of all of this is Amplified and the more sensitive the more Amplified it is so we want to be really cautious about how we describe things to these kids because their imaginations can really run wild with the stuff. So I’m not telling you that I know how to do this. I mean, this is a case-by-case basis, you know your kid best. I’m just telling you to be very sensitive to the highly sensitive people to the fact that half Are you have a talk with them that they are going to have they might be very Visual and visualizing things and catastrophizing in imagining and getting very afraid for people around them like at if you’re done with the conversation that doesn’t mean that they’re nervous system. When you’re done with the conversation when they’re walking away doesn’t mean that they’re nervous system is regulated. They might be walking weight carrying the conversation with them and feeling very along those lines. The one word of advice. I do want to give you has to do with attachment Theory and helping securely attached relationships. And when you do finish in a conversation with your child, whether the sense if you’re not particularly if they are highly sensitive In my opinion, you always want to leave them leave the conversation with a statement of security what I mean by that is to say something that is going to allow them even though there might still be having emotions around it that allows them to know that you’re there for them and that things are going to be okay and that it’s you’re not fooling them or telling them to be easy, but that you’re there and you’ll listen to them you hear them. So it’s something like this. Hey, sorry, we just have this difficult. Sorry. We just had this difficult talk. I know this stuff is scary me know and then you can model how you feel. You can say in my body. Sometimes I feel anxiety or tightness or my stomach can hurt and I know this is hard. But I am here for you. I care about you. I love you. I will always be here for you anything you need you come talk to me. I may not be perfect at responding but I will do my best to listen to you and I am to understand what you’re talking about and try to be here for you. We are going to get through this. I’m here. We’re doing everything we possibly can something like that. So you want to really be like an anchor where you’re solid you’re there and they can move around and they can go wrong with a know that they’re Tethered to something safe and stable and angry and even if you’re going through your growing trauma in your own peers around this and stuff like that. You can admit that and you can say, you know, I’m scared too. But and maybe you first don’t feel grounded. I did not feel grounded yesterday. And so that’s okay but to say to them still I may not handle this perfectly, but I’m here I will always be here. I’m here. So anyhow, I hope that it’s helpful to you. I guess it just want to leave you with that know that the HSP is the highly sensitive people imagine that it’s Amplified and you want to help them move through this time with a real with where we’re going through real scary stuff and help them process their fears and their concerns about this in the healthiest way possible considering the circumstances be very careful about what you share and what you don’t share and how you share it and especially the residue or how you leave the conversation. All right my friends, I hope and pray and wish for you health and safety and and the very best.