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Summer Break: 7 quick tips

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Video transcript:

Hey, what’s up? Everybody? I’m not sure if it’s gone. This is epic stuff Troy. Com. You have probably now finished the school year. So teachers congratulations. I hope you have an incredible summer. I know that I’m for teachers lot of times people think you’re totally free and I know cuz I was a teacher for a long time that you are not necessarily for the summer. But I hope you have some really great down time this summer and Parents summer for you guys. And obviously for your children that it’s summer in what I want to do today was give you 7 quick thing. I really this is more for parents. I just want to give you some ideas in terms of how I conceptualize the summer ending with number 7, which will be what I believe is the most important of all things. So number one. I want to talk a little bit about reading over the summer whether or not your child is in elementary school middle school or high school when I think about reading the number one most important thing that I think about Rida Is dropping a love reading and often times. It happens in school is schools are very focused on developing skills around reading and often times the love can be lost and kids end up some kids end up resenting reading or not finding value in it. So I think that the number one most important thing is that they love it that they find Value in it because if they find Value in Reading then whatever skills they need as they grow up they’ll be able to develop the skills better and better if they don’t love it then they’re missing out on one of the most beautiful and amazing and transformative things in the world, which is reading information reading books people expert on things have created books to share ideas and they’re just such important things in human culture. So When I’m talking with families, I’m looking at my notes are but when I’m talking with families about reading also and if you had your child reading the summer, whether it’s a couple times a week or daily or whatever I make sure it’s manageable but make sure it’s relatively consistent. So the more consistency the better. So if it’s every Monday Wednesday and Thursday for half hour or whatever it is or if it’s daily or whatever but the consistencies really important like you just don’t want to just have like one week where you really were you reading light. You want it spread throughout the summer because you’re developing a long-term skilled long-term love and appreciation for reading so I don’t really care what they read just as long as they’re reading and I do think it’s important to read over the summer and again for funds but there are two things in particular I want talk about one is if your child is reading a novel lot of time is parents will say okay. We’re we are teachers will say, okay, you got to reach for 10 minutes tonight or 20 minutes or 30 minutes or whatever you can say that but I think More important is to have an amount of reading meaning if you’ve read 20 minutes and you’re in the middle of a chapter. That’s a horrible place to stop. So, I’d much rather see a child read one chapter 3 chapters or something like that and I’d actually much rather if they’re not going to read daily. I’d much rather them read every other day or every few days but read multiple chapters because reading one chapter a day is not you’re not learning to dive into a book and that’s what I want for them is to learn how to dive into a book how to learn to really enjoy it that they’re doing it just to do it. I want them. Hopefully you’re trying to not make that happen. You want them to be enjoying Secondly, I want to mention is talk about it. So after they’re done reading ask them what the rent you can go character setting plot the point of view elements of literature. You can talk about main ideas. You can talk about whatever but talk about it. What were you reading about? Tell me about a have a fun conversation that okay now writing same thing. I think it was important thing is to love riding. You want to develop a love, right? And so much of school is around. How do you do specific things related to writing while during summer? I want them to really be free and be able to write creatively and have a lot of free right but you have some kids who are not self-starters when it comes to writing and some who are so that’s another thing to contemplate if they are not self starters with writing you’re going to have to help them with prompts are discussing it or whatever and it depends on the age to helping a senior in high school versus a 4th grader with this is going to be look very different. But ultimately you want them to be riding free. I’m using timers for riding is great now reading is different cuz you Shoppers but writing using a timer and thing I ever going to write for 15 minutes today. I just free, right, you know, that’s really a good time and do that. You can also do pages with writing. There’s something on morning Pages. It’s from the Scrapbook and I’ve done morning Pages before I write 3 Pages a day every morning, but whatever again it’s about enjoyment map nomap. I also want them to love but math is different in that you’re doing it more like you’re doing push-ups you’re doing it more to build skills as opposed to building loves. Obviously you want to build the love and if they already like Matt, that’s great, but you really looking for skills when you’re doing summer stuff. What I want to tell you parents is that in my opinion. You don’t have to do a lot literally three problems every 3 days a week 3 problems a day is fine. What I’m looking for when I’m working with kids in this capacity with math is I’m looking for quote Perfection. I don’t like the word Perfection. But in this case, I I used it. Very specifically because when they’re working on math, I want them to work on it as perfectly as possible during the summer. One of the I want it. I want to drink pushups at one time keeping the skills up math is a an area where you lose scales very quickly. It’s different than Reading Writing in that way. So keeping keeping strong in math during the summer is very helpful. But when the main things I want them to do is be checking their work. So the Perfection comes in really taking your time doing three problems, but high-quality having them self check before you’re going to check having them say, why are you sure this is right. Are you sure are you sure how do you know and helping them? Learn the self reflection in math? Because what happens in middle and high school with a lot of these kids is they don’t want to show their work and in they can do that for a point and they can do that with certain types of math, but then it gets so complex that they have to show their work. I want them showing that work during the summer I want Taking their time. I don’t want it to be hard. I wanted to be doable and but I really want to focus on the quality during summer, generally. And let’s see and I want them to be self checking other subjects. I’m not too concerned about other subjects is generally speaking unless something there’s a specific reason that they should be practicing another subject. I’m nuts too concerned about that. I really want them to have fun during summer. I want them to dive into enrichment activities or things that are going to reach them things are going to help moderate future number 5. Immersion. I really is summer is a great time for them to get immersed in something for day-long programs week-long programs multiple week camps things like that. So getting immersed in something where they’re learning and having fun is great exploration. So not necessarily getting immersed, but it’s being exposed to multiple things exploring a lot of different things during summer. It’s a great time for exploration usual summer time wisely because there’s so much that you can do with it to help them launch a great future and then finally number 7. The most important thing in my opinion that you want to do with your child during the summer does have quality time with them life is short their childhood is sure it goes by so fast and bleed when I summer is going to be gone before you know it so the most important thing in my opinion is that whatever you do whether you do any of the other stuff that I told you about that you make sure that you carve out that you planned that you really get the fun connected quality time that you want because I’m most important thing in your life is your relationship with your children and yourself in and your partner and your family and friends and stuff. But that relationship. How does the most important thing? So brialee take time to have quality time with your tops. Do not let Summer go by like that like make sure that you’re planning it in that you’ve really got you know, they can really imagine how much quality time you want to spend with them in really make these things happen. So with that that’s all I have. Hope you’re doing great. I feel like the video give it a thumbs up shirt with somebody put a comment below. And I will see you next Sunday at sephora.com. If you haven’t subscribed to my cycle and check out the product, and take care.

REWARD a child?

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What’s up parents and teachers, this is Seth with SethPerler.com. I hope you’re doing awesome. It is the end of the school year and something that’s been on my mind is this is the time when you’re going to want to reward your students – and what often happens is that adults tend to reward the result, or “the outcome”. What I want to encourage you to do is be more process-oriented, and I really want you to notice the effort of the students. And the reason I say that is because those are the things that got them the results. You want to do this verbally, you want to do it in writing, you want to celebrate, you want to really look at these kids in the eye and tell them “I noticed what you did.” I noticed you did this with organization, did this with your planner, that you did this with effort. I am so proud of you for your effort because the effort is what’s going to get them the result, and you want to acknowledge that so that they can become more reflective of what got them that outcome or that result. The more aware, the more conscious, the more mindfulness that they have around, the more they will be able to consciously apply that in the future, and the more they’ll be able to be a resource to create those results for themselves. So again, while you can reward the outcome, and you can pay them for their grades, take them out to dinner, or whatever you do to celebrate. I’m not judging that but figure out what really does feel like a celebration. Make sure you’re very conscious of what you’re celebrating. Because what you celebrate, you’re going to hopefully really encourage continued behavior. An outcome isn’t a behavior. So you want to encourage the behavior that’s going to help them launch a fantastic future, not a mediocre future, and not an okay future. You want your child, and if you’re a teacher, you want your students to have an incredibly remarkable future. What’s going to get them that?: Being able to execute functions, being able to do the things that they need to do, and being able to overcome the resistance to doing things that they need to do. In doing that, it’s a process and it requires effort. So that’s what you want to reward and focus on. Anyhow, it is almost summer break. I hope you are all wonderful and that you have nice, relaxing, fun, and joyous and rejuvenating summer. All right guys take care. If you like what I’m doing, thumbs up it on YouTube and subscribe. Go ahead and share it with somebody right this minute. I always appreciate that.

Ending the school year: 3 don’ts & 8 dos

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What is up? Everybody? This is suffice up perler.com and I’ve got a list of some do’s and don’ts for helping your child in the school year. So sorry, my throat is a bit scratchy today. If your child struggles with executive function, if you have a middle school or high school or even a college kid or 4th or 5th grader, this will be pretty relevant to you. If your student struggles with organization time management getting homework in and all that stuff. I have ever got three don’ts and eight dues for how to help them in the Square now it is the end of the school year. Today is Tuesday, May 15th. I’m in California a lot of students in California and around June 8th, but in other states students students all over the country and at different times, but this is the final stretch if your student struggles you’re going to want to hear this because I’m going to give you some of the biggest text. I wanted to do a webinar on this this year, but I literally just don’t have the time to do a webinar but wasn’t going to tell you is some of the things that I would include on this webinar, You can apply this to your situation you so your child doesn’t fail their classes and comes out at the end of the school year in the best possible way. So don’t number one is don’t suffer needlessly. So you and your child don’t suffer needlessly. So basically what I mean by that is this is the end of the semester. The problem is is that your child is probably if you know when your heart that your child is unrealistic about the amount of time and energy it takes to do the things that are necessary to do to end the school year, right? And if you know that your child is telling you leave me alone Mom and Dad stop bugging me. This trust me. Why don’t you trust me I can handle this. I don’t need your help. I don’t need you to keep bugging me. I’ll get it in tomorrow. I’ll talk to the teacher tomorrow. I promise I studied enough. I promise I wrote that paper or no. I don’t have any projects. No, I don’t have any exams. And if you have that feeling in your stomach that wow, I’m not sure. I believe it don’t suffer needlessly if you Feel that. You’re probably right? Okay, it’s not a bad thing. And that leads me to number 2 which is don’t trust your child. Don’t take that the wrong way. The thing is is that your child if they struggle with executive function, they’re going to perceive the world differently than the reality. They’re going to think how I can handle it so I can write these papers so I can procrastinate. Oh I can play video games so I can hang out with my friend so I can do social media. I’ll do it later. I’ll do it tomorrow. I’ll do it later. I’ll do it tomorrow. It’s okay if I stay up till 1 in the morning on my computer or whatever and the fact is that your child has x amount of hours to complete their work for the rest of the school year in the final stretch of the school year and even though they’re telling you leave me alone. I’ve got this if you know, you can’t trust that it’s not that they were aligned to you. Their perception is not based in reality. They are being honest with you in their intention. They just don’t have the executive function skills to manage it. Okay, so you want us to For them as much as you can and that brings me into the number three of the dump and that is don’t enable them you want to support them without an able in them enabling them is helping them in such a way that is not helping them in the long term in the big picture of everything your help is not helping. It’s creating larger wrists between you and your child in terms of the relationship at teaching them not to have natural consequences, which means that as they get older they’re not going to be able to they’re going to think that they’re not consequences and they’re going to be in for some rude Awakenings enabling them is doing it for them too much it is taking away the experience for them. So how do you support them without enabling them and I’ll get to that in here are eight dues of what you should do. 1 is what you want to do is when you work with your child, you want to be regulated emotion regulated. You don’t want to be arguing with them yelling at them telling them. This is how you need to do at lucky need to finish this work. Look you need to clean out your backpack. Look you need to sit down and do your homework you want to be regulated. Hey, we need to talk and be calm and centered and grounded focused when you have these conversations. So number one is being emotionally regulated when you’re going to have these talks with your kid when you’re going to try to support them and when you’re regulated you want us to give them boundary and you want to give them natural consequences not punishment. There’s a difference between punishment natural consequences. There are real consequences to their actions. They need to learn this they are going to resent you for it. They’re not going to like it. But if you if you want them to be able to be successful in this world, I need to have a realistic understanding but the consequences of Life are and it’s supposed to be regulated mean that your objective. Happy’s talks not mean not cold but objective regulated supportive caring on a smiling looking them in the eye but regulated and strong and grounded at their job as a as a as an adolescent is to knock you off your Center and to push your buttons and find where your buttons are. Will your job is the parent is to hide your button pretend like you don’t have it and I’m not saying that in an unhealthy way at all but really get grounded when you’re going to have these conversations to number 2 for the do-do email the teachers if you are not sure and you do not have Clarity regarding what’s going on. You said your kids what do you have going on in this class? And they say oh nothing or I got it handled in your not convinced email the teachers. You don’t have to tell your child. You’re emailing them depends on the relationship you have with your child, but what you need is Clarity and you’re going to email teacher say hey, I need some clarity what’s going on what we have coming up in the next couple weeks. I need to know this so that I can support my kid. Please email me back as soon as Apple doesn’t have to be long. Just give me a quick rundown of what I need to know next doo doo. Look at the portal. You want to look at their Student Portal if they have one for the school and you want to go through it thoroughly. You can’t just ate her kid. Have you been checking your grades online or kisses? Yeah, everything’s fine. No parent look it up. Look at the details. Check it out be thorough and figure out what you need to get clarity. Do you know you’re going to find if you’re wearing the typist. If you have a child that of the students that I work with your going to have a kid to his got a bunch of missing and then complete homework some late work and zeros, and you’re going to see a bunch of red marks on the portals to get that Clarity eye for my teacher next. Do do sit your kid down and have a heart-to-heart. Okay, so you’re going to sit your tail down and take a look at the end of the year. We need to talk and you want to be regulated you want say I want to have a heart-to-heart with you. I love you. I care about you. I want you have a great future and I’m not convinced that things are happening the way they need to. I want to support you so that you’re not summer school. You’re not retaking classes in the false that you feel good about yourself that you’re not up all night with doing things at the last minute and stress me out yourself in the whole family and going to have heart to hurt me. I was no cell phone no computer. No TV or sitting down your face to face and you’re telling them you love them and you can communicate and there’s no distractions and you can talk for 10 or 15 or 20 minutes and and hear them to next do is do prep them for conversations. Like this. Don’t just have them in the middle of the kitchen and Mill living room or right when they get home from school. That’s a wrap them so that they can mentally prepare. Hey, we’re going to have a talk tonight when we talked for about a half-hour we’re going to sit in the kitchen and we’re going to have a mature conversation. I’m going to listen to you and you’re going to listen to me. Okay, we’re going to talk about school in life. I love you and I’ll see you at 6 or whatever it is, but prep them so that they can mentally prepare next to be proactive if you wait till the last minute. Is what I deal with all the time with my students have to be proactive. You have to get that tutor get that coach email that teacher whatever it is for you to be proactive. Don’t wait and keep looking for kids. I got this leave me alone. Stop bugging me. Why you doing this? Don’t listen to it like be proactive do what needs to happen for your job next do to support the next do a backpack overhaul and a planner overhaul in a secret study space over also do help your child over all their entire backpack all the papers right now this week. Okay, I go through everything helping me organize it that you can do a lot for them. You’re not you’re not enabling them if you help them reorganize their stuff or even if you do it for them. I want your child to focus on what they need to focus on right now, which is makeup work studying for exams writing their papers doing the reading assignments at the end of the year and doing the projects of the end of the year. I want them folks on that if you want to help them with their planner in the portal in the backpack and the folders and everything. Do it to do support them at that and finally the last dude that I have for you. Okay? Do find what they’re doing right do praise them do tell them what’s going well tell them a lot. I talked about the 3 2 1 rule with parents give them three sincere genuine compliment that everyone perceives negative. You’re going to get them. You’re going to tell him. Hey your room’s a mess. You got to clean it up. You want to give them three things but I noticed that you said some really nice things your sister. I know so you put your dishes away without being told him I proud of you and I noticed that you’re just an awesome kid my love you because you bring a smile to my face whatever it is. Can 3 sincere compliments everyone. I know that’s a tall order of the reality of it. But had that intention in your mind do praise your child with genuine real prizes. I’m not saying to get them fake compliments. Tell them real things you love and appreciate and you see with them with that guys. This is the final stretch parents what you do matters. You got this. Good luck. You find me set this up for what I comment subscribe my block if you like what I’m doing, please share my stuff. Give me a thumbs up if you want you can comment on this. But if you want to support me and you got something out of this, I’d appreciate that to take care.

Where does your ENERGY go?

Each day your child uses energy in 4 major areas. When people use too much energy, they get into reserves, which has consequences.

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Hey, what’s up? It’s Seth with SethPerler.com. I hope you’re having a great day and I want to talk a little bit today about where your energy goes. So parents and teachers, your students, your children, their energy goes to four places. I’m going to explain this in just a minute and how this kind of works. So my Marlo Payne Thurman, she is somebody who speaks a lot about 2e issues. She’s fantastic. I know her from Colorado and she talks about this paradigm a little bit, and basically what she talks about is she says that there’s a circle and there are four places where your energy goes. You basically have, and then I’m going to give you sort of my take on this and how I apply this to students.

Basically what you have, is you have four different areas. You have (1) mental or cognitive or the mind, that uses up energy. You have the (2) physical body, the human body. You have (3) emotional energy that gets spent every day and you have (4) social energy that gets better every day. So what’s really cool about this paradigm and the way that I look at it is imagine that you have a day, a 24-hour day, and imagine that you’re generally up and you’re wake for about 16 hours. And think about your child obviously as well or your students, and they’re up for about that, about 16 hours a day, and they have let’s say a hundred points of energy to use. Those energies get used in those four areas. Once you’ve reached 100 points of energy, once you’ve used up your 100 points energy, you quote, ‘should go to sleep.’ You should rest. You should rejuvenate and regenerate. If you don’t, if you keep going beyond 100 points, then you get into reserves, and when you get into reserves you get into adrenal fatigue. You get into fight-flight or freeze you get into emotional dysregulation and we are often running our kids ragged. So let’s imagine that they have these hundred points. And the points can be distributed in different ways. You can have more of the points going to the body, more of the points going to the emotional, the social.

It’s not that you get 25 points for each. Obviously, it’s all over the place. And then there’s also the complicated issue of sometimes using those points gives you more points and sometimes using these points are more draining. Let me give you an example of that. Let’s say that you’re in a social situation with somebody who is exhausting for you to be around. Somebody who you don’t like to be around, and you’re with them for an hour. That can be very very very draining to you socially. Obviously emotionally that’s affecting you too. So that’s spending a lot of those points. So on the other hand if you’re with people that invigorate you and make you feel alive, and you feel really good around and you feel emotionally safe around, you laugh a lot with them. That can be not spending as many points going towards your reserves and it can be also investing and helping you have more resilience and more of the things that you want in your life. Similarly, if you go workout at the gym and you get a good workout in, that’s using your physical body, but it’s not using it in a bad way like that’s actually going to help you. And if you over workout or you don’t workout at all and you’re very sedentary, then those can be more depleting. Anyways, there’s different ways to look at those hundred points. There’s just a couple of examples on that. So let’s look at it. Let’s look at this.

Let’s imagine that you’re running a marathon. Let’s imagine that 50 of the points the day you ran a marathon went to your physical body. It probably would be more, like so much of the energy before you go to sleep is going to go to the physical body. I mean if you’re running a marathon, it’s just absolutely exhausting on the body. Obviously, you’re going to be fairly trained for it, but still, the vast majority of your energy is going to go there. You’re just not going to have a lot of energy for the other three areas. Let’s say that about a quarter of your energy is going to emotional things because running a marathon is very emotional. Let’s say that the mind is very engaged while you’re running that marathon. You have to really think yourself through it. So let’s say its 50 and 22 and 22, and let’s say that with social maybe the day when you’re running a marathon you’re not really communicating with other people. You’re very in yourself and it’s not a real social thing. So you may be used very little energy. I’m just giving an example of how it goes to different places.

Now, obviously the day if you literally ran a marathon you would be exceeding, you’d be exceeding the hundred points. You would go into reserves but you’d be doing it consciously right? You would say I know this is going to be an exhausting damn going to get really tired your fault you crash at night. You’d really you be recovering the next couple days. It’s definitely your going into reserves, but you’re doing it consciously, right? You’d say, “I know this will be an exhausting day. I’m going to get really tired.” You’d crash at night, you’d be recovering the next couple of days. It’s definitely going into the reserves but you’re conscious of it.

Well, think about this though. What about what we put our kids through. Let’s say a typical school day. Let’s say that they are there in sports and their physical body they use up 30 points there. Okay and let’s say that immensely they’re working very hard at school throughout the day. So let’s say that they use 30 points mentally. Let’s say that they have a lot of social interactions, positive and negative, but that lot of social stuff is going on in school, and let’s say that they use 30 points for that. And let’s say emotionally they use up 25 points. Well, that’s a hundred and fifteen points of energy that they’re using. They’re run ragged, they’re exhausted. When they go to bed, and some of them may be staying up, playing video games, staying up past the reasonable bedtime, really not getting the sleep that they need. So they’re into reserves, they’re at 115 points. They’re 15 points beyond where they should be before they should really be going to sleep.

Now imagine that they do this day after day after day. Doing homework and sports and social activities. And day after day all of these things are going on. They are just running on reserves over and over and over. Their adrenals are exhausted. They’re going to be having symptoms of stress. They’re going to be having anxiety. They’re going to be having depression. They’re going to be having possibly food problems and this and that. So I love this paradigm because it really helps us think, ‘where is their energy going and how can we change it so that they can have more bounce?’ Because if you can balance those four areas, if you can help them figure and learn and if you can model it as a parent or teacher, how do you balance life? How do you honor your body, your mind, your emotional life, your social life. How do you honor all those areas of life to get your needs met but still go to bed at night at a reasonable hour so that you can regenerate and rejuvenate and be healthy and have a healthy life for the long-term? Not just for the school year, not just for a week, or something like that. But how do you really build a lifestyle around this? And in our culture, we are overwhelming them so much. We are demanding so much from our kids and the culture tells us to do it. So it’s very hard I think for parents and teachers to say, “Look, you know this homework should not take you 3 hours. We’re going to advocate for you to make sure that this is reasonable. This emotional thing that’s going on, we’re going to get you a great therapist and help you work through that.” The parents are going to get a great therapist and work through their stuff so that they can model stuff that the teachers going to do that. We’re going to really take our nutrition seriously, etc etc etc.

So I just wanted to point out that just this great model drives a lot of what I do when I’m working with my clients, when I’m working with my students, I ask a lot of questions about these areas because as a coach, I need to find out what’s depleting them, what’s energizing them, and how we can really get them practical ideas. I’m not just helping them with time management and organization and grades. There’s a lot more to it. Excuse me that’s my phone coming in. But anyhow, I hope that helps you. I’m Seth. I have tons of solutions for parents and teachers and dealing with complex kids and helping them. Take care.

Jesse Hagopian’s Lesson Plan for Liberation

I don’t usually do this, but I love what this guy is doing, so I’m gonna tell you about it! If you’re a parent or teacher, you should sign up for Jesse’s blog. I’ve been following Jesse for a long time. He posts blogs every once in a while when he has a strong opinion about a current event in education. I love his passion and wanted to share his work with you so you can learn from him! I do not know Jesse and he does not know I’m posting this on my blog. I’m doing this purely because I appreciate the way he contributes to helping our kids.

Blog name: Jesse Hagopian’s Lesson Plan for Liberation
His latest article: Teachers and Parents of Puerto Rico Launch Historic Strike & Boycott against Standardized Testing: “We want a just, equitable world for our children.”
Here’s his ABOUT page.

Here’s a bit more about Jesse: Jesse Hagopian teaches Ethnic Studies and is the co-adviser to the Black Student Union at Garfield High School–the site of the historic boycott of the MAP test in 2013. Jesse is an editor for the social justice periodical Rethinking Schools is the co-editor for the forthcoming book, Teaching for Black Lives, and is the editor of the book, More Than a Score: The New Uprising Against High-Stakes Testing. He is founding member of Social Equity Educators (SEE), a recipient of the 2012 Abe Keller Foundation award for “excellence and innovation in peace education,” and won the 2013 “Secondary School Teacher of the Year” award and the Special Achievement “Courageous Leadership” award from the Academy of Education Arts and Sciences. In 2015, Jesse received the Seattle/King County NAACP Service Award, was named as an Education Fellow to The Progressive magazine, as well as a “Cultural Freedom Fellow” for the Lannan Foundation for his nationally recognized work in promoting critical thinking and opposing high-stakes testing. Thanks for how you show up Jesse. Very best, Seth Click below to share this

For Students: HOW to end the year?

Please CLICK above to share. Here’s a video for students on HOW to end the year. I outline 8 key concepts that will help.

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Video transcript:

Hey, what’s up? Everybody? Except. Bro., Hope you’re doing well here. I got a little video here for students your middle school or high school or college. This is for you. So at the end of the school year right now and there was a few things going on. I’m going to give you eight tips for how to end the school year better. So basically I I work with middle school high school and college students in terms of helping them navigate to and this is what I’ve been doing a lot with my student Lily. One is that I’m helping them get organized. So if you’re not organized if you’re not great at time management, if you’re not good at checking your email, if you’re not going to email your teachers, if you’re not good at that stuff ask your parents ask somebody whoever you want. Ask them to help you. There’s nothing wrong with that. In fact be most successful people on earth. Sorry, I didn’t have my my clothes me the most successful people on Earth. Ask for help. Okay, so ask for help with organization checking your portal email your teachers advocating for yourself getting Clarity regarding what’s going on because there’s a lot of confusion a lot of things. I work with are confused about what in the heck is this teacher asked me to do I don’t get it. I always seem to be messing up in this class. I’m trying to do the teachers asked me but I I don’t understand so get clarity at the MLB number to I want you to block or chunk off your Timeline. As soon as I work with think that they can do homework like 10 minutes at a time 15 minutes at a time. They make these small chunks and then they take a break and what do you think happens when they take break or when they take a break to get wavy RaeLynn? It’s so hard to get back on track to go during video game of social media or hang out with friends. Whatever. It’s so hard to get back on track what you want to do. If you want to be successful the end of the school year is block off large chunks of time. So when you do your homework here and want to sit down for 30 45 minutes an hour on weekends. You might want to sit down for 2 3 4 hours now. I’m not talking super intense Focus like ridiculous like Work like that that’s annoying and that’s super intense. Although there are times to do that. You don’t have to I’m not saying it’s been 4 hours every weekend doing it but block out large blocks of time so you can do your work. Okay, do not think that you’re going to work on Saturday morning from 10 to 11 a.m. And then 3 to 4 a.m. With 3 to 4 p.m. And then 7 to 8 p.m. Like it’s not realistic. It’s not what my students do. So just be real real. It’s a good sub number 3 know about emotion regulation. You’re going to be resistant to doing anything you’re going to be resistance using planner. You can be resistant to lighten your parents help you you’re going to be resistant to ask your teacher for help. You’re going to be resistant to going on the portal and check me out. Your grades are going to be resisting to reading directions thoroughly that resistance is there that’s the part of it was called emotional regulation. Your emotions are like now that I’m cool with that doesn’t seem fun. So you resist. Okay, that’s an emotional thing is so learn to sword. Hear the dialogue in your head when your head is like no, I don’t feel like it. I don’t want you to stupid. I don’t care learn to hear that dialogue in your head and learn to just do it. Anyway, take the action anyway and just make it feel small just do little tiny baby steps and get your momentum going next. I want explain pepper to you at the end of the school year you got for big things going on that I call a pepper. So what happens is that you have this little pattern one is it that you’re doing makeup work from early in the semester to is that you have current work in three is is that at the end of the school year you have big end-of-the-year stuff. Most people don’t realize this pattern and then it blindsides if I don’t want it to Blindside you so know this is coming out that pepper pattern at the end of the year are there for big giant things that come up on people and really affect them that negatively those are papers exams projects and large reading assignment. So usually at the end of the year, there’s a whole mess of stuff people wait till the last minute and then they fail so because they didn’t get it done. They didn’t start on time or they slap sit together last minute. So you want to be aware of this pattern and block out your time. Like I said was chunking earlier. Next strategize consciously, so I want you to really think about what do I have to do for the end of the year and plan it out write a whole big list use a big giant calendar. I don’t care. I know you’re going to resist you don’t want to do my students don’t want to do it. But when they do it, it feels so much better. They have a much better idea of what they have to do. You have to get it out of here do not depend on its uses for creativity for fun for conversation for daydreaming things like that. Don’t use this to memorize the things that need to be done. Stop doing that. It doesn’t work. Trust me. This is what I do next. You have to have your own buying as to why this is important. Okay, your parents are saying don’t you realize school is important in your teacher saying you need to care more and all this stopping you feeling like all I’m just lazy and all these stories that are going on. Look here is the buy-in you got to have number one education is the key it in fact your education will help you in your life, even if you like. What am I ever going to use calculus while you know, what you mean never use calculus, but the mathematical thinking logical thinking you will be using and education learning as much as you can moving yourself forward as much as you can that is the key to being able to do anything you want in life. If you can’t figure out how to navigate educate education you are going to struggle as an adult be able to do what you want to do. So I know that there are things that you don’t want to do in school. I know there’s things that don’t make sense teachers that you really don’t resonate with homework that just as does seem mean listen to But do your best anyhow, get as much as you can from it for you not for your parents not for your teachers for you that education is the key you want to have as much of a master key to Life Is Possible and the better education get the more they’re going to get out. Of course, you can get educated outside of school also with your own research and learning and and experiences and stuff as much as you can from school, even though you’re going to resist a lot of stuff in school next. The final thing is kind of cool but it is is that I want you to plan fun when you did Planet think of this weekend. I’m going to do this on Saturday night in this on Sunday afternoon Planet don’t just randomly do it like plan it reward yourself plan fun. You do need to have fun. You should not be studying all the time. There’s no point to that talk with life is about but you need to plan and fun reward yourself. Enjoy it do things that you need to do for you to do things that enrich your life. Do things that matter to you do things that you’re passionate about that you’re curious about that you’re interested in take time for those things. Definitely plan them in. I’m not saying don’t do that. You should do that. That is what life is a couch is things that matter so definitely be planning those in and finally the last thing I can tell you is that all the things they just told you do them in combination that you don’t have to any of them. Just do little bit of each of them. That’s where the success comes from. There’s no affection with this. Just try all these strategies. All right you have maybe six or so weeks left of the school year and you’re off for the summer. So go ahead and do that final push do the 1% rule. Just keep pushing yourself. Take care. I’ll see you soon.

Helping YOUNGER kids with EF. Helping ADULTS who struggle with EF.

I received this email: “Hi Seth, I heard you on the Tilt Parenting podcast and love everything you have to say. My son is 2e, but is only in third grade, so I think he’s still too young to benefit from your coaching. I was wondering if you your blog has ever addressed what to do if a parent also suffers from executive functioning issues. Going through my son’s journey with him made me realize that I also have ADHD (inattentive type) and a lot of executive functioning issues. I’m really struggling with being able to help my son get organized because I am not organized. I end up feeling terrible about myself because I feel like I’m failing my son. Thanks for all that you do. Jill”

Video 1 is about how to help YOUNGER kids who struggle with Executive Function.

Video 2 is about ADULTS who struggle with EF.

Faster Than Normal Podcast with Peter Shankman

New Podcast Episode: Peter Shankman, Faster Than Normal Podcast

I was recently featured on Peter Shankman’s podcast and we discussed my personal ADHD story.

We went into my struggles in school and how that felt.
How I ‘accidentally’ got a job working with ADHD kids.
What made me certain about my newfound path.
What I think about the skills & systems that teachers and schools give kids with ADHD.
Some of the challenges that teachers in your position encounter.
A few of my teaching tips.
Doing what you love, and learning how to do the things you don’t love so much.
Executive Function Disorder and defining methods of educating kids with ADHD.
The concept of “Launching” and finding good fuel.
Knowing that it’s OK, if you don’t ‘fit in.’

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P.E.P.R.: How to help your child with LONG TERM assignments

The end of the school year is a time when a lot of students struggle to manage the overwhelming amount of work they need to do. It’s incredibly important to understand the role of PEPR assignments so you can help your child navigate this time. If you like this vlog, please CLICK a share button. Thanks! Seth

SPRING BREAK. Do this. 7 easy things.

Please CLICK above to share. Hey parents (teachers, you might like this one too), Here’s a quick video I made to break down some of the things you might want to keep in mind as your child enters spring break. As we know, this is an interesting time of year because the end of the year comes up QUICK, and it’s easy for students to fall further behind. When kids get too far behind and they can’t recover from it, they have to retake classes and deal with other consequences. This video should help!

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Video transcript:

What’s up, everybody? I’m a little bit thick hair. But spring break is right around the corner again. I got 7 ideas for you. That’ll help your child. Number one understand that they do need a break and they have been going all school year. They legitimately need some time off. I need time to not think about school to really be free to really let loose really relaxed really decompressed really gather themselves again, and to be ready for the final push the school year. Now the final push the school year is pretty hard because usually in April and May there really aren’t any 3 or 4 day weekends or any breaks or anything. It’s a very strong push for most kids. So like I said that you really need this break bad to don’t talk with your kid about school during spring break, except you have to talk to your kids about school over spring break, but don’t just randomly bring it up. All the time is what I’m trying to say, like really intentionally think about when you’re going to talk about it and I do want you to have a heart-to-heart with them. I want you to sit down with them talk about school talk about life like have a time where you really honor it talk it. The final push of the school year, but then when it’s done be done. Okay, if you guys have to work on school stuff during break you no talk about it then but don’t let it linger and and be sprinkled all throughout break. Let them have break let them know when you’re going to have a heavy talk about school and then when it’s done, let it be done and then when you revisit it and give them a warning so that they know it’s coming. So the intention is really that they’re mine can be free. Also the emotional aspect as I always say is so so so important 3 understand the pattern and you got understand how it spring break factors into it in the spring semester students to start with executive function start off the semester strong usually and then a few weeks then things start to fall apart, but it’s hard to see until between week 6 and weeks 8 and then usually something happens when parents realized only. Oh my gosh things are falling apart and then you spend the rest of the semester trying to swim upstream your child’s trying to dig themselves that holes trying to put out fires and trying to catch up on Makeup were trying to manage their current work trying to do their final projects test papers and reading assignments. And then the end of the semester comes up so fast and what did the pattern of course there are consequences in this case when the school year’s over if your child fails classes, they will have to either take summer school or do retakes in the fall or whatever the consequences are but the consequences are not pretty and one of the problems is that kids who struggle with executive function are not realistic about the time and energy that is required in order for them to manage what they have to do for the rest of the semester. Now this is complicated in spring because motivation tanks because of spring fever the weather gets nice all the kids get out this giant burst of energy and they’re even less motivated to to do the school work. Plus they have their normal workload. Plus they have their swimming Upstream workload makeup work. Plus they have their upcoming giant papers exams reading assignments and projects. So with that decrease motivation be this is all they have to manage number for Understand that your child probably won’t get anything done during spring break it is so interesting how we myself included. We think though this is a break your child think so I’ll get caught up on all this work or you think on my child’s going to get caught up on others for the reality of the situation is that is very rare for people to get much done during spring break 5, your child probably does have a lot of makeup work to do and probably a lot of current work to do and prep work to do for the upcoming stuff. So if you are planning on having your child work over break if that’s really the best thing for them. You want to plan it and large chunks of time. You don’t want them to do a little bit every day, please don’t do that. That is not right thing to do a half hour everyday. They’re not even getting anything done in half hour the Burl even getting started. They have to get into the study mode. So I recommend choosing couple days where you choose the two to three-hour large block of time for them to really work on stuff and along with that. I really recommend that you plan your own work with them so Yuko work with During that time so you can work on your own stop your taxes your bills or whatever projects you have going 6 and this point you probably want to email the teachers and say hey what’s coming down the pike? I want to get clarity. Do we have any papers? We have any projects. We have any large reading assignments. Do we have any exams coming up? Is there going to be a rubric? Is there going to be a study guide etcetera? You want to get clarity from the teachers what’s coming up? Because chances are your child is not going to have the clarity you need finally number 7 stay on it. This is the final stretch do not give up your child is going to send you leave me alone. I got this stop bugging me you’re annoying whatever your child says to you to get you to leave him alone. You can leave them alone sometimes but you have to stay on top of the stay on top of looking at their grades down top of getting Clarity from the teacher stay on top of whatever you need to even though they’re going to be resisting your house. Going to want your help. You need to stay on top of this because the consequences are big With that I do. Hope you have a restful awesome fun spring break where you can really enjoy quality time with your child, and I will see you soon. Remember if you like this video, please subscribe on YouTube. Give it a thumbs up, and please share my work with somebody. Have a great day.