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For students who struggle with Executive Function, prioritization can be a nightmare and can cause them to waste a ton of time and energy trying to get things done. In this video I describe the important aspects of the problem and HOW I help students who are resistant to planning, learn how to get through that resistance and plan, AND prioritize how they will execute the plan in a sane and thoughtful way.
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Hey, what’s up? It’s me. Seth Perler, or SethPerler.com. Welcome back. I’m an executive function coach Bayside Boulder Colorado. I just redid the office. Hope you like it pretty excited about it. Got all the things going on new by Ben E. Holly me get to the point today parents what I’m going to talk to you about it a little bit of is how I help students prioritize homework. So here’s the deal your kid comes home from school. They’ve got a bunch of homework. What does the kid who struggles with executive function usually do what they do. Typically is. They look in their backpack for the folders or whatever and they chaotically grab something that needs to be done there often not using a planner effectively. They’re not there often not very aware of exactly what needs to happen. However, they have a sense that something needs to be done. So if there’s somewhat responsible, they’re looking for that thing or the most important things to be done. They pulled me out of the backpack. They reflect a little bit maybe and if they use the planner they hopefully are looking at the planter and think are these are the things I have to do but generally speaking cousar goes with executive function more or less chaotically grab something to do something because they know they have stuff to do so. What when I’m working with these students what I help them do is I help them to do a daily plan. I’m not going to go in that deep about the daily plan right now, but I’ll help them figure out. What do I have to do tonight? So they list out and I always ask what your number one priority they put that first and then what other things so maybe the number one priority is finish a math worksheet and then they have to write a draft and then after we capture something that’s the Spanish whatever they write out the things that they need to do that night and then we have a back burner and so on and so forth what I’m going to talk about specifically right now is this how does your child prioritize what they do first? Why because if they don’t choose the order or prioritize the order in which they’re going to do things again, they are chaotically doing things that can be okay. However, one of the problems with chaotically doing whatever is that There is a lot of residual loss of sort of focus time. So for example, if they had an hour and a half worth of homework and they given night but because it’s okay. I kind of start something kind of finish something kind of have to do something kind of grabbed the next thing kind of work on it kind of take a break that’s kind of really long and kind of take him down a rabbit hole where to get really deep focus out of his study mode. It’s hard to get back into that kind of etcetera. So basically they take this 90 minutes of homework and get strung out. The quality goes down the time increases that’s required to do it and ultimately the amount of things that they gets on his last it’s ever so what I’m talking about again is how do we figure out exactly what they have to do? So I have them less what they have to do it. How do we prioritize it? How do you prioritize it? There are that was a lot of set up to get to this point. There are 5 main ways that after years of doing this there are 5 main ways that I have noticed that people prioritize stuff. So I find myself asking kids all the time. I’m the same question. I’m going to post you which is going to help you understand these five ways and here is what I will ask my students cool now we know what you have to do tonight. What do you want to do first? I don’t want you chaotically just doing something whenever let’s get a structure to the so what do you need to do first? Do you want to do the number one priority first the easiest thing first the hardest thing first the longest thing first or the shortest thing first now maybe parents you have another idea of a way people prioritize things by those are the general one that I find over and over so you can you can take this information and be like, oh, yeah, my kids usually doesn’t most important first or the easiest first or the quickest first or they just randomly do something and they have no method to the madness when I pose that question to the kids. So they written out the four five things I need to do tonight. That’s a cool. Now. We know what you have to do. What order do you want to do them in? What do you want to do first? Do you want to do the easiest first to hard as first the shortest verse in the longest first or the highest Priority First and what you ultimately find Is that unless there’s a super high priority because like there is a big project due tomorrow, which ultimately trumps everything like when they’re when your kids anxious and they waited till the last minute on something and it’s really down to the wire and they’ve got to do it then everything else was on the way to obviously that number one priority gets them for it aside from those types of days. We want to ask that question. What do you want to do is easiest to hardest longest shortest or highest priority and people have different styles. So, I personally am somebody who likes to do with the quickest things first. The reason I like to do the quickest things first is because I get multiple things crossed off my to-do list quickly and easily so I get multiple things to cross up pretty quickly and I’m also because it helps me get the ball rolling and get into a work mode in a focus mode. So many kids does ya want to do this the easy as for the hardest or whatever I always follow up with a cool why cuz I want to know what they’re thinking. I’ll will I like to do the hardest because blah blah blah. I like to do the number one priority because Bubba block now this may change next week. You asked me on a Wednesday. What do you want to do? First easiest hard to shortest the longest or number one priority first and it may change and that’s okay, but I’m always curious why and then I’m like, oh that’s a really good reason some only supporting them and giving them feedback. But I want that metacognition going. I want them having to articulate why they’re choosing to do things the way they do that’s very important cuz I want them Mindful and conscious and self-aware and knowing why they’re making the choices they are making because the more they have knowledge of why they’re making choices. They’re making the better choices are going to make in all areas of life. But basically I’m asking those five questions and then we are putting them in order. They’re going to do this first the second this third. This fourth is V whatever their homework is. the night now your child probably is not going to get everything done on their list you tonight that’s very common with kids to start with executive function. So it might be a win for you if they got three out of five things or three and a half out of buy things or whatever. So you always have to look at what’s a win in the situation. Now my kidneys self-care time. They need play time to need relaxing time. Like you know, what we like or what can we have to lean out like out because sometimes your kid might want to do the things they might miss the number one priority and one of the most important things no matter what order my kids go in at my office here. I need to know that at least our number one priority thing is going to get done. Why because then number one priority thing is the thing that I say if you got nothing else done today. What would be your number one priority? What would you get done and be happy about so the very least the number one priority thing has to be done, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be done first, but I want them thinking in these terms people. This is about thinking this is about how our brain Plan things in the thinking that’s associated with planning, you know, this is a very complex skill. So anyhow, I just want to point that out to you and it’s a great question. You can ask your child. Hey what you got to do tonight? Okay, let’s list all the things. Now. What order do you want to do them in and what do you want to do first the easiest to hardest the shortest longest or highest priority thing first, then they pick what order in an in my office. What ideas they have them, right? What order maybe it’s 5321 in a whatever order they want to do those things. I have them pick that at the beginning and we’re planning the night why the other benefit of picking the order they want to do things is it takes the Lingering residual breaks that are kind of chaotic and that are really a time-waster in an energy way sir for them. And it may they make the decision of the beginning of the night. So they take out their plan list of these a no card or whatever. They write their plan of the things are going to do they figure out what order they’re going to do them in and now once they finish one thing all they have to do is look at their to-do list and say okay, here’s my next thing here is what I chose is number two with this thinking and decision-making is already been done. I don’t want them making that decision after they finish the first task. I want them having made that decision when they made their plan for the night. Now last thing I’m going to say to you parents. This is not an overnight matter. I do not teach these kids to do this and do this two or three times with them and they’ve got it. Ok, this takes persistence. It takes time takes patience. I takes a lot of exhaustive in-depth discussion about things in a lot of times has the parent like look, let’s move it. You need to get this done. To go to bed. I see what’s going on here. I see that you need to be in bed in an hour to go take your 20 minutes to get ready for bed means you only have 40 minutes to do two hours worth of stop. Come on. Let’s get him what you know, so it’s very hard. I think sometimes as a parent to watch this cuz you know stuff got to get done and you’re like, I want you to be done. I want you to have free time. I don’t want you to take all night to do this stuff. But sometimes you need to have these discussions over and over patiently persistently continuing to deepen the discussion and help them with gradual release of responsibility where they get more and more take ownership of this process as they develop be extraordinarily complex skills of planning so to recap This was about five questions that I find myself asking kids over and over and over as we are planning their evening those five questions. I asked our after we finish their General plan of what needs to get done. What do you want at what order do you want to do these things in it? And do you want to do you want your first thing to be the easiest you want to do the easiest things first the hardest things first the shortest things first the longest things first or the highest priority things first. Why is that your choice? That’s really interesting. Tell me more cool. Okay, let’s make our order good now we can get started and now they can get started doing their work and when they’re done with one task, they can move easily into another one that they have intentionally chosen the order of so that they can really get down to business and get back to free time fun time and stuff like that. Anyhow, again, my name is Seth. What’s up, bro. Com. Executive function coach at Boulder Colorado if you haven’t signed up on my website for my weekly a Blog. I send you out an update every week and help you figure out how to navigate this thing called education. Have a great day. I will see you soon.
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Parents, teachers, what’s up with me Seth with SethPerler.com, Executive function coach Bayside Boulder Colorado and I help struggling students navigate this thing called school. And today I’m doing a different type of the post. I’m going to do more of a rant today in his blog and this is an honor of a Greta thunberg who is the activist the teenage activist that has really caused. A lot of people to be really inspired to take more action with what’s going on with the climate. Obviously. We know that this is no joke that this is a reality and that people who deny climate change. I just don’t get it, but we are at a point when it’s it’s it’s scary what we have done to the world that our kids are growing. Ben and I’m going to talk about that today. I got three things one. I’m going to rant and tell you about where I’m coming from on this and why it matters. To I’m going to tell you a little bit about what I do to make a difference in terms of protecting this Earth and three. I’m going to tell you what I wish. I am not intending to offend people and I’m sorry if I offend you but I’m going to speak my truth. There are a lot of things that I blog about. I try to stay out of politics. I try to really focus on helping kids are struggling with executive function. I try to stay in this area and I will tell you the only thing that concerns me is executive function issues. I am concerned about the future of the world the future state of the world for our kids. So anyhow, I’m going to talk about two that I know for a lot of you there’s there’s about 25,000 people who follow my my Vlog around the world and I know for a lot of you speaking preaching to the choir so to speak I’m stuck. I’m telling you something you already agree with her probably the vast majority of you. So why is that? I don’t usually speak on this level. This is not really about politics. This is about life on. Earth as far as I’m concerned and I have some notes her I’m going to be going by. I don’t do what I do to help kids to live in a world that is dying. That is suffocating by human interaction. I don’t do what I do to that kids have a bad future. I do what I do. So that kids can have a good life a good future and if the world is messed up they are not going to have that. It doesn’t matter how good their executive function is. So we have to start there. So I do my work so that they can have a good future and I am very very very concerned scared terrified outraged angered about what’s going on and I always say in my blogs. I always say to parents what you do matters. What you say matters what you think matters. It impacts your child now on when I speak these words. Usually what I’m doing is I’m referring to them in terms of your relationship with your child and how modeling works and how coagulation works and and how much we impact our kids even when we don’t know it and if we think back to our childhoods and the people who have impacted us, they probably at the moment didn’t really know how much their words or actions or thoughts are we’re impacting of positively or negatively, of course, they’re both in in our own past. So what we do is that all that matters and obviously in terms of what we do on the earth it matters, so We have an impact our actions my actions my entire life every year. I’ve been life everyday. I’m alive my actions impact the planet and what I want to do is have his minimal impact on the planet as possible. So in this sort of stuff, I am frequently disgusted and angered and pissed off and what keeps me up at night is seeing some of the ridiculous waste and abuse of the earth and neglect of the earth and non non noticing of the earth. I don’t know why I was born this way, but I don’t think it’s abnormal. I think that we are connected to the earth. I am a part of the earth. We do not own the Earth. We are a part of it. We are in relationship with that. We impacted impacts us. I don’t Stand how people cannot see that. It really bothers me some common things that bother me is at airports you get on a plane and there are there’s so much waste in an airport on airplanes in terms of plastic cups that are delivered in terms of packaging for the products that are delivered to the passengers in terms of aluminum cans that are used on the airplanes and then just thrown in the trash in terms of magazines and newspapers that are bought airports and left everywhere and in terms of the ways that comes out of an arid so anytime as men there for them looking at all this waste that is not going into recycling containers. Do some airports have some programs for this. Yeah, but the fact that there’s so little Consciousness about this another thing my parents recently. I went to Northern Europe and they said to me they said I would have really liked it because it’s so clean there because they take everything so seriously. Yeah. It’s a culture. Difference the culture their values protection of of the Earth in the end of where they live and will we tend to do here is we throw it to landfill out of sight out of mind. We have no idea the impact and we we are just blind to it and it disgusts me yesterday. I was somewhere and I walked by a trash can and I just saw these two plastic bottles in regular trash can that stuff drives me nuts. First of all, why do we need the plastic bottles for for water when we have filtered water? It’s accessible almost everywhere and in then that they were just thrown in the trash is just a lack of awareness few people don’t care. So I’m angered by this lack of awareness. I’m angered by the lack of action by adults and I’m angered by the lack of interest for adults to learn educated adults. Their lack of interest in learning about these issues and taking it on and taking the effort to go the extra steps, which is not a far step to do something that is protective. So I’m angry because this is not a joke and one of the things that I my brain goes to is if if there was a baby an infant in a room and somebody lit up a cigarette you would take that baby out of the room because we know that cigarette smoke causes cancer now decades ago. We didn’t know that now we know nobody questions it it it it if there you were in a place and there was lead paint everywhere and you had a baby or a child you would fix that problem. If there’s asbestos you would fix that problem. Those are three examples of problems that are invisible. You don’t see the effects of lead paint. You don’t see the effects of asbestos for a very long time. You don’t see these problems in real-time, but we know That these things have an impact we know it. So we we protect the child yet. I it just drives me nuts that we don’t that we don’t see it and we’re not outraged and we don’t think of it in those same terms. What we are going to the planet is toxic. It is toxic to our kids quality of life. That is so not okay. That is so not what I do why I do what I do. So that kids are left with this world that we have trashed and they have to deal with enough one dimension with Greta that she’s been such an inspiration like she is a neurodiverse kid who has used her gifts or talents or passion or interest to do something and that’s what I want for all my students and I don’t care if it’s an in this domain of climate change or what they do. But ideally I want your child your kid that I work with your kid that I work as a coach. To try to help the whole point is not so that they can go get some stupid job, but it’s that they can do something that matters to them. They can do something that’s important to them. They can do something that’s purpose both of them that’s meaningful to them. So they can utilize they’re getting their talents and their interest in their passions and do work that matters to them and we live in a time when kids we can help our kids grow up and that’s why I said executive function is so important because these kids have to know how to execute in order to be able to create a life where they have the choices to do work That Matters by Greta did work that matters to her. She started these protests and she started a little Ripple that Ripple turned into a wave and now it’s a tidal wave in there has been huge impact, so I don’t understand how we disregard future generations and how we don’t see the toxicity of the of these of our actions. Will we do what you do what I do and I’ll get to what I do in a minute, but it’s it’s just not okay, we can’t ignore the problem and it’s not okay to meet to not be outraged when I talk to people and have deep conversations with people that are close to me about what I think about education and how to change education one of the things that I say and we are not there yet is a culture is that you the parents people have to be outraged but they have to understand the issues in order to be outraged and a lot of times parents don’t understand executive function or they don’t understand a lot of the problems of school. We just take for granted that of course the school has our kids best interest at heart and they do and teachers do but it’s outdated and it needs a big 2.0 Big Time. So anyhow, I am outraged and disgusted. And I I cannot believe what we are doing to the home of our children this beautiful Earth. Another thing. I want to mention is consumerism. We live in a culture that says by stuff by stuff by stuff waste waste waste packaging packaging packaging year is how it looks you’re going to love it. It’s going to change your life and we bye bye. Bye. Bye and we don’t understand that every time we buy any product. It has an impact everything we do has an impact. So I was going to mention this sometimes I wish that there was like no trash pickup for like a month and people had to take all their tracks. They produce in a household and leave it inside their house for an entire month just to see how much trash we produce you can’t take it out to the curb. It has to stay in your house and to see the impact cuz then it’s not out of sight out of mind anymore or what if trash picker uppers didn’t come for a year and it was piling up in our yards and we really saw how much we produced sometimes. I wish that would happen so that people would hit a bottom and like it real because I really think people just are oblivious. So in the first two hundred thousand years of human existence on Earth took about 200,000 years to get a billion people 200 250,000 years to get a billion people. Do you know that we’ve gone from that 1 billion to 7 and 1/2 billion in just over 100 years. 250000 years to get 1 billion a hundred and some years to get the next six and a half billion to get up to seven that plane. Bauer impact the impact of that many creatures on this Earth is tremendous and to think then that we have we drive on these things called roads. We just take for granted that roads are there. They weren’t always there. We have had to destroy any of of the environment underneath where we built roads so that the impact of that and of houses and we have had a massive impact in to deny that is just makes me want to vomit and I don’t understand the motive for denying it. I don’t get it. Is that so that you don’t have to take a bath with me again, even if you questioned it. You Just Like Heaven the carcinogens than in cigarette smoke you just take the precaution because you care about your child. Just so just baffles me. Sorry now what we do matters. It impacts this here’s what I do. So now I’m going to transition for my rant about the problem until a little bit of what I do. So, I’ve always been the type of person. I’ve always been a highly sensitive person and one of the things that I’m highly sensitive about is life on Earth, I happen to work with kids. I could work with animals I could do whatever but I’ve always liked kids animals science and nature and things like that. And so I’ve always been like that in my first influences on this was when I was a child was Jane Goodall Jacques Cousteau Animal Kingdom in the thing is Jack Hanna and the Columbus Zoo and things like that people who who spoke about these things those were huge inspiration to me and they Had a big impact on me and how I live my life. So I think because of those things I always knew how important it was to protect life on Earth. So here’s what I do first thing very important parents teachers. Whoever you are watching by the way. Oh as always thank you for your support of my blog and Vlog in my work here is what I try to do. First of all, I don’t try to be perfect. I don’t do everything you can see in this office. Like I have posters I purchase them on Amazon. I’m sure there was an impact that I made a choice to do that. I made a conscious choice to do that, but I made a choice to do that. So there are you know, there are things I I use soap, you know, I use products to clean my house and so be perfect. That’s not the point. The point is this to be very conscientious and very mindful of everything you touched and the impact so first thing is don’t try to be perfect. But to be mindful of the impact next I don’t use single-use plastic as much as I can. So it’s been a few years now that I haven’t used a single water bottle Coke bottle any of that stuff even use the single bottle for years now single-use plastic bottle now, I do use single-use with other things and I don’t like it but that would be things like if I buy a big thing of hummus or guacamole, and it comes in plastic that’s single-use plastic usually so am when I can I use glass containers go in and fill up my own container. So that’s something that I do. I set an example for my kids. So here in my office. I have plenty of places for recycling I talk about Recycling and composting and I set an example for them by showing them that it’s important to me that’s modeling. I am a very minimalistic I declutter I get rid of stuff. I declutter my entire life a few years ago my whole life fit inside the back of my Subaru and I cannot tell you how much of an impact that had on my life every single new thing. I ever bring into my life. I really contemplate. I don’t want any new stuff. I went through so much energy to get rid of stuff my life feels so clean so empty. So I am good way because that emptiness of stuff and clutter allows me spaciousness to have experiences, which is what’s really important to me. So it makes my life easier. I recycle at home. I reuse paper bags. I reuse anyting I can I reuse paper for scrap paper. So reusing is very important. And of course not using using bags for the grocery store that a reusable. There’s no reason to beat use plastic bag to ever again in my life. I’d so I don’t use plastic bags. I only buy what I need some very specific about what I buy I buy from reputable companies and stores that care about the environment when I do take out from restaurant. I don’t think the plastic bag. I don’t take their forks. I don’t take their materials. I don’t need extra materials. I don’t want to contribute to the problem in that way. I consider the packaging from anywhere from a restaurant whenever I don’t you go to restaurants that use styrofoam and I if they have extra plastic, I don’t use it. So I bet him always considering the packaging of anything that I purchased and what it’s packaged in and what’s going to happen to that packaging. You know, that something is biodegradable like cardboard or is it going to just contribute to the problem and I don’t like if I’m at a hotel I don’t take the pamphlets of the newspapers or I don’t add to the paper problem. I just don’t consume. Stop. I don’t absolutely need especially when they can be found online. And that’s some things I do and now I’m going to transition to the end my ask look parents teachers what we do matters. I don’t know you I hope I’m not offending you but I really don’t care because if I offend you but you changed some action that contributes to helping the kids on this planet have a better quality of life in a better future than so be at this is not about that. This is not about you. This is not about me. This is about the future. This is about this giant organism that we call Earth and protecting it and honoring it in keeping it alive and is preserved and is healthy and happy as we can keep this planet so that our kids can have a great future where they can grow up and for Generations, they can have better quality of life. Why else would I be doing what I’m doing? So please my ask is to notice that what we do matters, please may I ask is that you do your research your due diligence? The find out what you can do with your impact and my ask is that you please consider every item you ever touch Everything You Touch and your life consider its impact and and just think about it and think about if it’s something that you believe in and want to use or or not and then finally I have a lot on my plate but I’m so inspired by good at that. She started doing what you called future Fridays and that is where she started protesting and I’m what I would like to do and I’m not going to make any promises yet. But I do want to try to make a future Friday video for you every Friday with a little rant about something because you know, I always talk about executive function, but there are a lot of issues. I don’t talk about that. I am just chomping at the bit to talk about that a talk with families about that impact your kids. So I want to do future Friday’s wear. I’m really looking at on Fridays what are some things that we can contemplate some issues that we can contemplate that help? Our kids have a better future, whether it’s environmental whether it has to do with things like a letter grades, which is a huge issue that I do not believe in letter grades. I think they’re morally wrong, and I would love to explore that with you in a future Friday, and now that impacts gets it said her. I’m going to let you go now, my name is Seth Perler has been a long one. Thank you for sticking with me here for 20 minutes. I hope this is benefited your life and health benefits your kid’s life. Again. I’m an executive function coach at Boulder Colorado. If you haven’t signed up for a website stuff perler.com, please do you unsubscribe on YouTube? I’m you can subscribe give it a thumbs up and leave a comment if you want. Tell me what you think. I appreciate you and I hope you have a fantastic day.
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Many students have “sensitive” hearing. They hear EVERYTHING, and it interferes with executive function. Do not underestimate the impact this can have on your child, even though it may be difficult to identify that they have this heightened sensitivity. Here I break down the problem a bit and give you a fantastic, inexpensive solution. This one is great for teachers as well.
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Our parents and teachers. This is me suffer stuff pro.com. I’m an executive function coach based out of Boulder Colorado and I hope starving students navigate this thing called education in in today’s video. I’m going to talk a little bit about ears and students have sensitive hearing and a really cool easy hack that you can do to help support the student. So this one is for parents, but it’s also for teachers because teachers this is really easy one and really cheap one. You can have them in your classroom. So what I want you to understand first is that we live in a very very very auditorily noisy stimulating world nowadays by the world hundred years ago 500 years ago a thousand years ago. We have never ever ever lived in a time when there is so much auditory stimulation. We used to live in a pretty quiet world. We could really tell what was going on in our environment. We’re very attuned to very subtle changes in sound in the environment so that we could be aware of what was going on in the environment. Now we are just flooded with stimulus and for a lot of For myself included in for a lot of students who struggle with executive function particularly kids who are highly sensitive. Anyhow, a lot of these kids are taking on a lot of auditory information. So everybody here is the same what you know, we’re all experiencing if you have 50 people in the room, we’re all experiencing the same auditory information in that room. But I want you to imagine this some people in that room have very good filters built into their brain or built into their ears where they’re able to filter through the things that they don’t want to attend to and they’re able to focus and concentrate and sip through and filter out the things that they do want to focus on what I want you to imagine that some of the people in that room do not have good filters. So to speak and those people have all sorts of sounds coming in and I want you to imagine the student sitting in the classroom and they’re sitting there and these noises are driving them crazy, but the problem is is it’s underneath the tip of the iceberg. If you know my Iceberg Theory, you can’t look at the child and see unless they’re covering their ears which substance would But certainly a middle or high school students not going to do that. Even if they feel it. They’re usually just going to act like everything’s okay. I was so any other problem is we can’t just look at a kitten often see that they’re struggling with this and often. They don’t even know that they’re having an experience that the different from anybody else. So they’re not able to articulate it. But either way I want you to imagine that some of the students in the classroom. You don’t have good filters. They’re taking in everything in the volume is turned up on them. So imagine that in the classroom, you you have an aquarium with a filter bubbling having a guinea pig in the other side of the room with the guinea pig scratching the gauge of the air conditioner of the building on with a Hemi of fluorescent lights with them if people stencil scratching at people whispering you have people scuffling papers, all of these sounds with your perfectly normal sounds to most kids in the classroom for certain kids in the classroom. It’s going to feel very loud very overwhelming that can interfere with our executive function meaning it can it interfere with their ability to focus. School on learning on the teacher on the things that they’re trying to focus on because there’s so many other similar vying for their attention that they’re not able to filter out. So I’ve got a great act for you. I often wear earplugs. I wear them in airports. I wear them anytime that I need to lessen the stimulation. Sometimes I’ll use noise cancelling headphones or what-have-you, but I will often use ear plugs and these ear plugs are rather large. So if you look is you supposed to lift the ear and pull back sort of and that will open the ear canal and you can push it in but if you notice that is obnoxious it’s huge. So if you wanted to give your child listen to Hey kiddos School gets a little bit too stimulating or too loud or things like that. You can use these while your kids going to be like, okay if they’re young and they don’t care if they’re like, you know a second grader. Maybe they don’t care and they actually think it’s kind of cool and whatever but if they’re middle schooler they are not Going to want to walk around with that. So what I’m going to show you is that how you can modify these little bit. So these are super inexpensive that was so refreshing to me because of it cut it muffles the sound you can still hear the teacher or what’s going on through the air. This will not interfere with being able to hear what’s going on. Well enough you can wear these two concerts. You can wear these to class you can wear them anywhere but it what I’m suggesting to use for kids who have heightened sensitivity is you take these you literally roll it up and then you cut off the top. You just cut it right off with the scissors. You take a bag you write their name on it with a sharpie and you give these to your kid and this is the top part that I have already cut off you’ll see it’s nice and flat and this is the other part that I cut off that you’re going to keep you roll it up. And this one happens to be a lighter flesh color, but you push it in and this was the first one that I use. Before a moment ago and put that one in here and I’ll let them they sort of expand in your ears. You can get a whole box of them or bag of them online or at a music store. And you never place is pretty cheaply. In fact bartenders will often have the money and if you had allowed restaurant or something, you just ask them where the wait staff if they have them but check it out. There’s the one and it’s pretty obnoxious and it’s if they’re wearing hat can get away and but there’s the other one. You can’t even see it unless I turned pretty far. You can’t even see it there. So that’s just a really simple hack again parents. All you do is you take these you take the larger one you cut off the top you throw away the bottom and you are left with a relatively invisible ear plug give your kid a couple of these throw in the backpack or teachers. You can have multiple bags of these in your classroom for kids who want them with their own name on them so that It’s sanitary and everything. Anyhow, that’s what I want to share with you today. Again, my name is Seth. What’s up, bro., If you haven’t signed up for my blog and you have a kid who struggles with executive function every Sunday. I send something out and have a free gift for you and you sign up in terms of a video series that will help you understanding that can function. I hope you having a fantastic day. I will see you soon. Take care.
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“So I thought I would give an update from yesterday and this is for the win!
After my brief rant/post (which was self-care & self reg), I was able to regroup. I created a safe space for my son, who said, “I hate homework”. I told him I was not going to get mad over homework anymore. I started with a 2 mins. timer and stuck to it. We were able to get 4 out of 5 pgs done over several short sessions. Then we were exhausted and went for a walk to clear our heads. I took notes along the way about pg 5. This morning, I booked an appointment with him and stuck to it. For once, we didn’t start with a fight, negotiation or negativity. I had set up some visual prompts in the doc and HE actually went through it like a BOSS. Finished the whole thing in 20 mins.
Thank you: Seth, Stuart, Gretchen and the person who suggested the “appointment” (sorry I can’t recall who it was-and I can’t believe it worked). Also to Beth, who told me about the Summit and helped me to prepare for the school year and empowered me to be proactive.
My take away from the Summit is life changing.
I followed up on a couple of promises and connected with his currency (we played Magic for an hour – ugh; but he loved it!) This afternoon, our family went go carting and had an ice cream. This is a nice place to be.😄” Melanie
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What special considerations might parents consider during back to school time, for 2e or Twice Exceptional learners?Regardless of age, here are some of my general key thoughts. Oh, and I did leave out one important consideration in this video, reports! If there is paperwork that the teachers should know about, definitely consider how you can best to share the information. You might have info in neuropsych reports, IEP, 504, or RTI documentation, etc..In this video I review 2e, discuss challenges, how to support your child, executive function, emotional regulation, resistance systems, mindsets, routines, habits, how to communicate with teachers, other staff, advocacy email, tone, assume positive intent but beware, going in, meetings, have agenda, watch out for other GREY areas under tip of iceberg, Processing + attentional = homework disasters, gifts, passion, talents how to develop, hope for Differentiation, understand content process product, watch out for lack of challenge, what to do outside of school, the secure relationship
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Here’s a sort of “micro-MASTERCLASS” for ya.
In this video, I teach parents in-depth about the problems with asking our kids what they have for homework and specifically HOW to ask the right questions in order to get MEANINGFUL answers so you can help.
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Hey, what’s up, parents? And teachers is the stuff. Farrow. Common today in this blog. I’m going to explain to you some of the questions that I use with my students as I’m trying to help them do their work Sony on my name Seth Perler. You’re probably familiar with my blog. But if you’re not I want you to know that this weekend there’s to post executive function online summer brand new Summit that I created with a bunch of experts from all over the place. If you haven’t if you didn’t know anything about this and you’ve been following my blog while it’s we have today left. It’s amazing check it out go to executive functions summit.com. The link is below and register and get what you can out of it. It’s almost over so dive in but I’m going to talk today parents about a list of questions that I so here’s what here’s the problem parents will say to their child. Hey, what’s up, you know Middle High School College is Waverly middle and high school. Hey, you have any homework in your child will say no. Or hey, how’s everything going in school fine and parents often have these conversations with their kids about homework where the student either is not aware of what’s going on or in the moment. They don’t they can’t recall it and bring it into their mind to give you a meaningful answer at or their resistance you and I’ll give you an answer about the basically saying hey back off mom and dad. I don’t want to talk to you about it. Leave me alone. I’ve got this I want to be treated like an adult even though I’m missing a million homework assignments. So on and so forth. So I’m going to talk about this here because the what happens is that I have students come into my office and after years and years and years of working with students who struggle with executive function have a lot of missing Zane complete slate Works zeros test corrections their failing classes or their grades are dropping after working with so many of the students. I found that There is a set of questions that I always ask now I may not ask all of them all the time. I’m always calibrating. I’m always looking at the kids nervous system into it to see if they have the tolerance for me to ask them certain questions. Obviously if they’re really overwhelmed. I’m not going to ask him all the questions but I need to be able to as a coach working with them as someone who cares about the man wants to help them succeed. I need to be able to get meaningful dialogue with them to get answers meaningful answers to help us know where we need to prioritize our energy and what the student needs to be working on. So these questions are the end-all-be-all and I don’t say that about many things but this is something that really encompasses every question pretty much that I’ve asked and I’ve organized these questions. I’m going to explain it to you in a minute. I’ve organized these questions in a very meaningful way so that you can use Use these questions as parents or teachers a lot of teachers follow my my blog you can use these questions. You can put them on the refrigerator. You can put them in the kids bedroom. You can put them wherever you want, but you can use them as a guide to know you’re asking the right questions. Okay. So basically what we’re trying to do the the one question I don’t ask on here. Meanwhile that I think is important for you to know is I’m not asking for a temperature check or a high low or something where I’m checking just how the kid is doing emotionally. So often times as I’m doing this, I just want to say that that we really need to be attuned to listen carefully parents. We need to be attuned to what’s going on in the emotional life of the child. So there might be something else going on or they might be really tired or exhausted or their their body feels tired or they’ve been eating a lot of sugars are foods that are making them foggy or they’re not sleep. Sing in the rain and fog is so we need to be at tune to other things that are going on as well. So a lot of times they’ll do a temperature check. Hey, how’s it going on a scale 1 to 10 in that might give me insight to get started on those conversations. Just want to say that disclaimer before I start getting into these questions cuz these are very linear concrete questions that in terms of their temperature is more is more abstract and it’s more something you want to dive into in terms of a to Newman and connection in relationship. Now in terms of these questions, I’ve broken into a few different categories. So basically you’re going to say your kiddo. Hey, do you have any homework know are you sure? Yeah. Are you positive? Yeah, leave me alone. Get off my back whatever. However your conversation goes. Do you have any homework? Yeah. I have one thing, you know and you might not know in your head. I bet there’s three things or whatever. But so that’s so we buy what we want as we want meaningful answer. So this is how we get it. So here then The first question I always ask is what is your number one priority? So I have a planning guide. I’m not going to show you tonight. But basically I said my servant. Hey, what’s up, man? How’s it going? How you how you been? Yeah, what’s going on? How’s your day? How’s your week? What’s up with the teachers of it? Really? Okay, cool. What’s your number one priority tonight? And I use a lot of weight time Avenel often times on the answer me. I just stare at them blankly for a moment and give some more spaciousness for them to think about it. This is a very very very very powerful question. Do not underestimate the power of this one question. It is one most on this paper. It’s probably it’s one of the two most important questions asked by the student. Will then say yeah. Well, I have to finish this math thing or I have to read the paper or I have to do an outline or I have to update my planner or I have to reorganize my backpack or I just need to sit for a few minutes. Now that we’re not going to write on their daily plan, but what is the number one most important? Here’s how I pray that what is the number one most important thing you need to do today that if you did at least that one thing you feel good about it. So that’s often a way that I go in more depth with that question. What is my number one priority next I ask about classes. Okay, so I’ll say work for any Japanese homework from your classes and let’s say that the student says no, even if listen parents even if the student says no. I don’t have the homework for any other classes. I still follow up with this questions all day. Hey, Jeremy, anything–for any other classes now Cool Math? No, Debi science. Yeah, I got blah blah blah. So they I’m not tricking them but I’m asking the deeper level. Like I’ll ask these questions about the different classes and often times. It’s it’s giving the spaciousness for them to think and process now. Are they going to have any homework for other classes? Are they just going to go from what’s in there had no, obviously in an Ideal World, they open their planner and they will see all of it or they can look in the online portal in the most Ideal World. They look in their planner and they can answer. Yes that I have this this in this because it’s reliable but we’re working with the kids who start with executive function. So we’re building that reliability of them. So you have any math science and social studies history geography depends on the kid. I’m not going to say all these things Wala or English Germany foreign language Japanese other classes, like sometimes kids might have a tech class or this or that and then I Ask do you have any makeup work? Another very important question. Do you have any makeup work because what’s on the radar as often what’s urgent from the day but they might think oh, yeah, I have this from the other day that I have to do first thing. What’s my number in Paradis then driving to work for classes and then do I have any long-term things I should be working on now. That’s what I call Pepper. Do I have any long-term things I should be working on. Do I have any papers or essays to work on so pepper papers exams projects are reading the papers exams projects are reading. These are long-term things that are not on their radar might be due on Friday might be to the next week might be doing a month. But these are long-term think they should be working for in these cuz you struggle with executive function are the kids on the Sunday night before a giant project is due on a Monday. They come to you at 9 at night and say Mom Dad. I have this giant thing due tomorrow and everybody’s freaking out stressed. So do I have any papers or essays? I should be working on exams test or quiz has those are just that since they should be studying for project. I should be working for or large reading Simon’s books novels are textbooks dense material that they are supposed to be reading they were they really need time to focus and saturate themselves in these things. So often times do I have any homework there? Just thinking this And they’re not thinking this then. It’s a lot of times kids with who I work with it be like hey Mom, Dad. I don’t need to go over to SS office tonight. I’m good. I don’t have any work. I’m sure I don’t but they have other things to do. That’s where it comes here. Should I organize my backpack in my papers update my planner check my portal thoroughly and deal with my inbox. The inbox thing is Big because these kids are often. They they’re subscribe to a million things or email addresses everywhere out there. I like for them to be digital minimalistas y k and then the final question of all when I said, this is the one most important questions with my number one priority. The second most important question is after I’ve gone through this with them is what am I forgetting? What am I forgetting? Great question and when you say what are you forgetting and they pause and they think about it. They are not always but they often will be like, oh, yeah this one thing it’s something about asking that question is really powerful. Anyhow parents and his little Master Class of a video Lesson for you. We’ve been going 10 minutes of fiber. This is so important. I’m going to give you a PDF of this document. Okay that I’ve created over years of asking the same question figuring out the pattern. These are the things you need to look at. Now remember parents. I do not ask every question to every child every night that will that will push them away and that is the opposite of what we want to do. We want to be connecting with them in the tuning to them. Okay. We need to connect to them in a tuna with them incense what’s going on with them and help them? Not it if we do all of this is going to feel micromanaging. It’s going to feel suffocating to them and it’s going to push them away from us and it and we are not going to be able to do what we are trying to do which is be helpful to them cuz I’m going to give you this again. I’m going to review just to pull it all together planning questions for each night as they’re making their plan. What’s your number on priority? You have any homework for your classes Germany things you should be working on that are long-term. Do you have any other things you should be doing that are more executive function organizational type things that deal with your systems. And then what are you forgetting? So again, I have been using these questions for a long time. I put it into a really easy to use for Matt at the beginning of last school year and I’ve been using it ever since and it really is a very solid and reliable mechanism you can use where you know, no stone is unturned. Do not use this every day and do not use the whole thing everyday, but this might be a good thing to do once everyone the week or once every two weeks to tell your kid. Hey, we’re going to do this thing exhaustively once every week or exhaustively once every two weeks until me the parent until I know that you’re really on top of And when you have that confidence that your kids got it like that. They’re at they’re asking themselves these questions. They really get the structure urine and amazing play. So anyhow, again, my name is sephiroth sephora.com. I got a Blog sign up if you want subscribe on the YouTube channel thumbs up at leave a comment if you want tell us what you think about this stuff and what ideas you have or insights you have is a parent in terms of dealing with this if your teacher what what am I leaving out? What it what else should we consider hair? Is there anything that I forgotten? Anyhow, I hope you are having a great day, and I hope you having a great school year, and I hope you’re having a great connection with your child. All right. Take care.
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Should your child use a digital or paper planner? Is this even the right question? Planners are SUPER important, yet we often have students who do NOT know how to use them effectively. Here I’ll tell you EXACTLY what you “should” be asking in order to set your child up for success.
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A question I get a lot from parents and students: “Is it better to have a paper planner or an electronic planner (i.e. Google Calendar)?“Here is my response: it doesn’t matter. I don’t care what type of planner of my students use. I have preferences that I use with most of my students that struggle with executive function (these are not the same recommendations I would make for a student with strong executive function.) All I care about is do they use it and are they learning to build the skills for planning? Is it an effective and reliable system for tracking the tasks and responsibilities one needs in order to achieve their goals?I’ll say that again, the words I’m choosing are very specific. Is it an effective and reliable system for tracking the tasks and responsibilities one has to track an order to achieve their goals or get done the things they need to get done for their bigger goals? The simplest planner I ever use with anybody is I will suggest a notecard (1 flashcard). I’ll teach them to stick it in their pocket and just write the stuff from the day that they have on it. This is how they ease into it. That’s one method. There’s a lot of nuance around that I’m not going into in this video and how I make that work. And then I get kids who use the school planner, the monthly calendar, which is the one I usually get kids on. (Or the Google Calendar). Once we get into using Google Calendar or the paper planner, I teach them all about how to plan. How do we make it effective and reliable? These are very big skills.So hey, what’s up? My name is Seth, I forgot to introduce myself. I’m an executive function coach out of Boulder, Colorado. I help struggling students navigate this thing called education. And if you haven’t signed up for my website SethPerler.com, I send out a free blog every week, and I’ve got tons of free resources for parents, teachers, and students struggling.But people want to know the end-all-be-all planner. Do I use the electronic one or do I use the paper one? And I really don’t care. It’s usually a combination. What’s really important is what I said before; that it works. But it’s also important they’re buying ownership where the student has been a part of the process of creating the system and building system out. So it’s a very complex set of skills in order to learn how to plan, and people want a simple: here is the right answer. I don’t have that for you. I will give you a real answer: it takes time, patience, persistence, and doing exactly what I talked about in terms of building a system that’s reliable and effective at tracking the things you need to track. So with that, this is Seth with SethPerler.com. Check me out online, hit the thumbs up this video if you like it, and subscribe. Or leave a comment below if you have any thoughts about this. Also this Friday, August 23rd, 2019, we have a free executive function online 3-day summit for parents. It is good. Check it out an executivefunctionsummit.com. Take care.
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In this video, I’ll explain 3 big myths about planners/calendars/agendas and how adults try to help students use them. Then I’ll give you guidance on what really matters when choosing the right planner for a student who struggles with planning.
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Parents in this video. I’m going to talk to you in teachers. I’m going to talk to you about three myths that people often have about planners calendars and agendas. So the first men tell by the way, my name is sepis up for what I comment executive function coach out of Boulder Colorado and I will work with students who struggle with this thing called education in and help them learn how to better navigate it and the first planner meth that I’m going to talk to you about. Is that giving a kid a planter is enough. So there’s this myth without all that if we just give them the right planner that that’s good enough, but the fact is that these skills the skills of learning how to plan the skills of using a planner eat to effectively track and manage the tasks and responsibilities that a human being has the skills that are required to do that are enormous. There are a lot of microscopes that are involved in this process and I think that what happens is that kids usually get Planters and play. Sixth grade, that’s usually when they’re first given them by the school or the parents and I think that would happens is that at that time we give these planters out in a lot of the kids in 5th or 6th grade do well with Planters. They’re giving them to give him a little bit of guidance and they can run with it. And then you have these other kids were giving the planners and they like, what do you want me to do with this isn’t fun not only is enough fun, but I don’t know what you want me to do with us. And so the idea is that if we give it to you and give you a little guidance since they use it that you’re going to use it while I want to dispel the Smiths. So what I think is happening here is that the kids who are naturally pretty decent using them. They actually have been building on these microscopes for years and first grade second grade third grade fourth grade by the time they’re in 5th and 6th grade and they’ve built a lot of decent executive functioning planning skills there more linear thinkers weather that’s by nature nurture. I am not getting into that but they have better executive function skills. They are more linear Arthur Morris. Sequential there more process thinkers. Are there more detail oriented people and so they take to this stuff more easily. They look at a player and they say and you give him a little guidance that makes my life easier, but the kids who haven’t been consciously or intentionally building the skills over the years and the more free-spirited big picture of global thinker right brain, these type of kids who don’t have great executive function. They get the planner and they say I look at my shoulders watch. Why why what what am I supposed to do? I can’t attract all the things you’re telling me to do. It’s just overwhelming to them all of the skills that are involved in this. So again myth number one is that giving them a planter is enough. It’s not enough. He’s a very high level skills it have to be taught in and takes years to teach and for the kids who haven’t been taught that directly we need to teach that number two. Nip number to is one-size-fits-all. You’ll see a middle school with 1,500 kids. They buy boxes of these Planters. They get them the teachers get them. They take him to the classrooms. They pass them out and you got 1500 middle schoolers in a middle school with the exact same plan or is it one-size-fits-all is the bat planter is banned all be off for all of them. These Planters have the school handbook in the front. They have the hall pass in the back there the periodic table, only misspelled words bunch of crap. They don’t need in the planner and they will have two or three pages in the front of it that says how to use a planner and then the teacher might give a little bit of guidance and say, okay pull out your planner blah blah, but that’s not enough. So anyhow, one-size-fits-all is myth number to one size does not fit off. There’s another place where I see the one-size-fits-all meth and that is where somebody researches planners. What’s the best planner you get back a bunch of gov results on the internet as to what’s the best planner you read the reviews? You see all these people that are crazy about this planner the person who designed the planner has written a book about the plant. Have the courts about the planner in and everything’s the planner. It’s the coolest thing in the world in the people who write the reviews The Five Star reviews. They love it will guess what? They’re the people use it if people use the one-star reviews probably while there probably aren’t many of them because they’re not using it. They don’t have the experience to say I’m going to give this one sat there just aren’t many people who do that. So you got to really think about why are these reviews here? Now? Those Planters are often good for people with decent executive function already who are willing to take the time to learn the methodology and the intention behind that particular planter design again, there is no one-size-fits-all many players can be good for many different people people use those Planters. Well are using the skills of planning. They’ve just giving you a device that helps you use those skills fairly well and you adapt somewhat your personality and style to these Planters. They’ve given you a A jumping off point and some guidance around how to do that. But the these for people who plan decently well and want to spend the time to refine that stuff. They’re going to love these planners your kid if they struggle with executive function is not going to spend that much time on it, especially independently learning how to do it. It’s number to one-size-fits-all number three planners. Don’t work for my kid really. It’s more planners. Don’t work for me. You really hear this myth more for a kid. Yeah planners. Don’t work for me. Yeah, I don’t like planets. I hate planners planners planners just don’t work the Planters not working. It’s that the kid isn’t working the planner. Now as I said before they don’t know how to so it’s like giving them this Guitar. Let’s say you’ve never played guitar before and giving you this guitar that has a lot of complex Q’s me there’s a phone call that has a lot of complicated things going on. You have to know how to change to know how to clean it with a proper cleaning stuff. You have to know how to change the pickup. To change the volume at a change of tone which pickups to gives you what sound what that ass holes for why those dots are there white spots. Are there do you like big fat small fretz flat frats what you are so many complicated things with this instrument and a planner is a very complicated instrument that helps us track our responsibilities in our tasks effectively. So when we when it gets as they just don’t work for me, they’re really saying I don’t have the foundation of knowledge that I need the complex skill set to use this incredible tool. You’re giving me and you’re giving it to me and saying hey go make an amazing song with this like with a guitar, but you’ve never played it before and you’re like what in the world are you talking about? And that’s what we do to kids are so those are the three big myths that I wanted to talk about now. I’m not just going to leave you hanging in there. I’m going to tell you now. How do you pick the right planner? Stop just told you some of these big mess because I don’t want you just thinking that if your kids I was with executive function you give him my planter and they’re going to be okay. Now, we have to really help them learn the skills. But you do have to get one now. I can’t go too deep into it in this video. I’ve already been talking for 7 minutes, but I will tell you this but he kid will do when you go into the office or online or whatever you say what plant or do you want their filter that they’re picking is like if I were to go into a guitar store somebody’s ever play guitar and say which one do you want? They might pick the one that’s their favorite color or that the shape looks cool or that reminds them of their favorite Rockstar. They’re not looking at how is this going to perform and they need to look with planters that how am I going to be able to use this to plant now? How are you the parents going to help them choose that? If they don’t have the background knowledge, what we’re going to do is you’re going to open up dialogue. So they’re going to say it’s a lot of times kids will be like, oh, yeah that one I don’t like the way that one looks. I don’t want my friends to judge me when they see the way that one love, you know, they’re thinking thoughts like this. That one looks cool. That one goes under the radar. I’m not going to stand out with that one. I liked it that one small. I like that one’s bit smaller. Easier to carry a big it’s easier to find like people have all their thoughts what your child is not thinking is how am I going to use this to plan and effectively track my tasks and responsibilities in my life to make my life easier. That’s not what they’re thinking. That’s the dialogue you want to have so they look at a planner and you say what do you think of this one? They say no and you say why? Nice a while because of blah blah blah and if their answer doesn’t really have to do with planning then I want you to press them and say well what about if this was yours how would you use this to plan and they would say whatever they would say and then you look in the next one. How would you use this one to plan how that’s the question the dialogue you want to be having it. How would you use this to check homework? How would you use this one to check test? How would you use this one to check project? If you parents go into the store and you’re talking about how they’re going to use this to effectively manage and track their responsibilities and tasks. That’s what you want to be doing. Now that mean you’re going to walk out of there with the perfect planner know your kid may be using it for two weeks. And you see that it’s not working again. Does that mean that they’re not wear and maybe means they’re not working at you you really windy really need to spend a lot of time with them in the first 6 weeks of school developing planets feels a lot of times the middle school, you know, the teachers will hand out a planner and they open your planner write this in it and it’s just it’s not teaching the skills and again for the kids who seem to pick it up naturally, you know, they seem to be working harder while they’re not they’ve been working for years that they have the skills. Your good is actually working really hard to figure out what the heck is going on with us. So anyhow, I hope that that helps you can sign up for my weekly updates except for what I come and August 23rd 2019. We have it executive function summit.com. 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Here’s an email template I made for one of the college students I do executive function coaching with, who was taking a 9-week, online, summer class. We did this at week 6 when she told me she was concerned about her pattern of giving up at the last minute. I discussed it with her before I wrote it, then emailed it to her, then had her send it while we were on a call (for accountability). We worded it to give the teacher a bit of background and to ask an easy, open-ended and useful question that would help the student proactively address her concern. She felt good about it and said that it’s often hard for her to come up with the right words in situations like this. Feel free to copy and modify it to your liking. -Seth
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Hi Dr. Follis,
This is Sarah and I’m writing to ask for your support. Meeting with you 1:1 online last week was very helpful. My pattern is that at the end of a semester, I can get pretty fatigued and overwhelmed, and I can sabotage the whole semester. I do NOT want to do that, so I am writing to you to be honest and get support.
Here is my question for you:
What suggestions do you have for students who want to end the semester strong?